If childbirth causes harm to the wife, is coitus interruptus permissible?
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The questioner : Following up on the same question, if a man practices coitus interruptus with his wife despite delaying having children, what is the ruling?
The Shaykh : It is not possible to answer this absolute question without clarifying and detailing it, because we need to ask why he is practicing it, what is the deterrent, and what is the motive.
The questioner : Yes, my wife, meaning, I now have, praise be to Allah, three children, three children. The doctor said it is not possible except by the suction method.
The Shaykh : The suction method.
The questioner : The suction method.
The Shaykh : Suction.
The questioner : There is a machine involved.
The Shaykh : Yes.
The questioner : And this has some harms behind it, meaning harm to the wife and sometimes to the child. So now, out of necessity, as a way to relieve the wife, and also based on this danger, coitus interruptus would be practiced, meaning without pills or anything else.
The Shaykh : I notice that two contradictory terms appeared in your speech or in your question. The last term, glory be to Allah, you forgot the first one. You said there is a type of harm in your last question, you exaggerated the harm. Remember the word you said.
The questioner : I said there is harm to the child and to the wife.
The Shaykh : That was the first one.
The student: Yes.
The Shaykh : The last one.
The student : You said relief for the wife, comfort for the wife, and keeping away from harm. That is what you said, so that we avoid the danger.
The Shaykh : Danger.
The questioner : Yes, meaning the word.
The Shaykh : Yes, yes, there is a big difference. So I, glory be to Allah, printed it in my mind and then it went away, and now it has come back. So there is a difference between danger and harm.
The questioner: Yes.
The Shaykh : Correct.
The questioner : Yes, I mean harm.
The Shaykh : You mean harm. This harm is either something that can be borne and endured, in which case I do not see the permissibility of the coitus interruptus you are asking about. And as we all know, pregnancy and childbirth are not a pleasure in life, but rather a struggle. Therefore, it came in some reports that when a woman is patient with pregnancy, childbirth, and raising the child, she has a great reward, and a very great reward. For this reason, I do not see that we should advise a Muslim to practice coitus interruptus, especially since the future of the living children is not in the hands of this one who practices it. Because often, matters are dealt with that are in the unseen, which a person does not possess, and he deals with these matters as if they were under his ownership and control. The child may become ill, or may die, and then he regrets the coitus interruptus he practiced. For this reason, we say that coitus interruptus, in general, is not permissible except for dire necessity, except for dire necessity. And we advise the young Muslim to keep before his eyes the saying of his Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him):. So the Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings be upon him) wants his Ummah to multiply, especially since this multiplication is not only for the benefit of the Messenger (peace be upon him), where he boasts, and this boasting is not like the boasting of the rich with their wealth and their status, and so on, but rather because the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him), as his Ummah multiplies, his good deeds and his ranks with Allah multiply, based on his saying (may the prayer and peace of Allah be upon him): . And therefore, it came in "Sunan al-Darimi" with a sound chain, but it is a mursal report, that the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) is or . And this is a very clear matter from the multitude of the Ummah of the Messenger (peace and blessings be upon him). And therefore, the spouses should cooperate to fulfill the desire of the Messenger (peace be upon him) which he expressed in this authentic hadith: . So coitus interruptus must be looked at from the perspective of dire necessity, "and dire necessities permit the prohibited." As for what is called today population control and family planning, this is foreign merchandise that Muslims should not acknowledge or practice.
The Shaykh : It is not possible to answer this absolute question without clarifying and detailing it, because we need to ask why he is practicing it, what is the deterrent, and what is the motive.
The questioner : Yes, my wife, meaning, I now have, praise be to Allah, three children, three children. The doctor said it is not possible except by the suction method.
The Shaykh : The suction method.
The questioner : The suction method.
The Shaykh : Suction.
The questioner : There is a machine involved.
The Shaykh : Yes.
The questioner : And this has some harms behind it, meaning harm to the wife and sometimes to the child. So now, out of necessity, as a way to relieve the wife, and also based on this danger, coitus interruptus would be practiced, meaning without pills or anything else.
The Shaykh : I notice that two contradictory terms appeared in your speech or in your question. The last term, glory be to Allah, you forgot the first one. You said there is a type of harm in your last question, you exaggerated the harm. Remember the word you said.
The questioner : I said there is harm to the child and to the wife.
The Shaykh : That was the first one.
The student: Yes.
The Shaykh : The last one.
The student : You said relief for the wife, comfort for the wife, and keeping away from harm. That is what you said, so that we avoid the danger.
The Shaykh : Danger.
The questioner : Yes, meaning the word.
The Shaykh : Yes, yes, there is a big difference. So I, glory be to Allah, printed it in my mind and then it went away, and now it has come back. So there is a difference between danger and harm.
The questioner: Yes.
The Shaykh : Correct.
The questioner : Yes, I mean harm.
The Shaykh : You mean harm. This harm is either something that can be borne and endured, in which case I do not see the permissibility of the coitus interruptus you are asking about. And as we all know, pregnancy and childbirth are not a pleasure in life, but rather a struggle. Therefore, it came in some reports that when a woman is patient with pregnancy, childbirth, and raising the child, she has a great reward, and a very great reward. For this reason, I do not see that we should advise a Muslim to practice coitus interruptus, especially since the future of the living children is not in the hands of this one who practices it. Because often, matters are dealt with that are in the unseen, which a person does not possess, and he deals with these matters as if they were under his ownership and control. The child may become ill, or may die, and then he regrets the coitus interruptus he practiced. For this reason, we say that coitus interruptus, in general, is not permissible except for dire necessity, except for dire necessity. And we advise the young Muslim to keep before his eyes the saying of his Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him):
Marry women who are fertile and loving; for I will boast with you before the nations on the Day of Resurrection.
تزوَّجوا الولود الودود ؛ فإنِّي مباهٍ بكم الأممَ يوم القيامةWhoever calls to guidance will have the reward of that person and the reward of whoever follows him until the Day of Resurrection, without anything being deducted from their rewards.
مَن دعا إلى هدى كان له أجره وأجر من اتبعه إلى يوم القيامة ؛ دون أن ينقص من أجورهم شيءThe most people in good deeds on the Day of Resurrection.
أكثر الناس حسنات يوم القيامةThe most prophets in good deeds on the Day of Resurrection.
أكثر الأنبياء حسنات يوم القيامةMarry women who are fertile and loving; for I will boast with you before the nations on the Day of Resurrection.
تزوَّجوا الولود الودود ؛ فإنِّي مباهٍ بكم الأمم يوم القيامة
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