If there are some forbidden things in the wedding, is it permissible for me to participate? For example, if the mahr is paid from a bank loan?
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The Shaykh: May Allah preserve them.
The student: O Allah, amen. And I have warned them and cautioned them, and reminded them of the threat regarding that.
The Shaykh: Allah is the Greatest!
The student: Yes, so what did they insist on but taking from the bank to pay the mahr? So I do not know if it is permissible for me to participate in their celebration.
The Shaykh: By Allah, O Abu Abd al-Rahman, this is a matter of extreme delicacy, because the issue varies according to times, places, and people. So if you see that boycotting them might deter them from their violation of the Shari'ah, then boycotting is called for here. And in my opinion, in the present age, boycotting is not of benefit.
The questioner: It is so.
The Shaykh: Due to the prevalence of evil, the corruption of society, and the scarcity of supporters of the truth. So if you were to boycott, you would be boycotted.
The questioner: Yes.
The Shaykh: And therefore, if no benefit appears from boycotting, then nothing remains but what came in the hadith:.
The questioner : May Allah reward you with good.
The Shaykh: Yes.
The student: Because I naturally always remind my brothers and those I mix with here, saying to them that applying the Shari'ah boycott is very difficult today.
The Shaykh: Allah is the Greatest!
The questioner: Because if you boycott one whom you see as having good appearance and commitment, you will find others from the people of deviant calls.
The Shaykh: Yes.
The questioner: And if the man is not committed, you will find the companions of evil who call him to corruption.
The Shaykh: Allah is the Greatest!
The student: So the truth is, I mean, the one who calls to the truth, enjoins good, and forbids evil, is in a strait and in severe difficulty in dealing with societies today.
The Shaykh: It is so, but what is required of the believer is to remember the saying of the Messenger (peace be upon him):Al-Adab Al-Mufrad 388, so patience is necessary, and we ask Allah for safety.
The questioner: Patience is necessary, and I am glad to tell you that my brother Nasser Abu al-Harith.
The Shaykh : Yes.
The student: got married last week.
The Shaykh : What Allah willed!
The questioner: Yes, praise be to Allah.
The Shaykh: And if Allah wills, with a lawful mahr.
The questioner: Praise be to Allah, it is not praise be to Allah, Lord of the worlds, the lawful, by the permission of Allah, and if it does not become easy, we will wait.
The Shaykh : Praise be to Allah.
The questioner: We seek the lawful, the good.
The Shaykh: We congratulate him and pray for him with the supplication of the Messenger (peace be upon him):.
The questioner: O Allah, amen. May Allah reward you, our Shaykh.
The Shaykh: And my warm greetings to him, then.
The questioner: It will reach him, by the permission of Allah the Exalted. And you, our Shaykh, convey my greetings to our brothers who are present with you.
The Shaykh: If Allah wills, it will reach him.
The questioner : May Allah reward you.
The Shaykh : And may He reward you.
The questioner : And peace be upon you, and Allah's mercy and blessings.
The Shaykh : And upon you be peace, and the mercy of Allah and His blessings and His forgiveness.
The questioner: O Allah, O Shaykh, you are with us.
The Shaykh: And upon you peace.
The student: O Allah, amen. And I have warned them and cautioned them, and reminded them of the threat regarding that.
The Shaykh: Allah is the Greatest!
The student: Yes, so what did they insist on but taking from the bank to pay the mahr? So I do not know if it is permissible for me to participate in their celebration.
The Shaykh: By Allah, O Abu Abd al-Rahman, this is a matter of extreme delicacy, because the issue varies according to times, places, and people. So if you see that boycotting them might deter them from their violation of the Shari'ah, then boycotting is called for here. And in my opinion, in the present age, boycotting is not of benefit.
The questioner: It is so.
The Shaykh: Due to the prevalence of evil, the corruption of society, and the scarcity of supporters of the truth. So if you were to boycott, you would be boycotted.
The questioner: Yes.
The Shaykh: And therefore, if no benefit appears from boycotting, then nothing remains but what came in the hadith:
Be moderate and approximate.
ساددوا وقاربواThe questioner : May Allah reward you with good.
The Shaykh: Yes.
The student: Because I naturally always remind my brothers and those I mix with here, saying to them that applying the Shari'ah boycott is very difficult today.
The Shaykh: Allah is the Greatest!
The questioner: Because if you boycott one whom you see as having good appearance and commitment, you will find others from the people of deviant calls.
The Shaykh: Yes.
The questioner: And if the man is not committed, you will find the companions of evil who call him to corruption.
The Shaykh: Allah is the Greatest!
The student: So the truth is, I mean, the one who calls to the truth, enjoins good, and forbids evil, is in a strait and in severe difficulty in dealing with societies today.
The Shaykh: It is so, but what is required of the believer is to remember the saying of the Messenger (peace be upon him):
The believer who mixes with people and endures their injury is better than the person who does not mix with people nor endure their injury.
المؤمن الذي يخالط الناس ويصبر على أذاهم خير من الذي لا يخالطهم ولا يصبر على أذاهمThe questioner: Patience is necessary, and I am glad to tell you that my brother Nasser Abu al-Harith.
The Shaykh : Yes.
The student: got married last week.
The Shaykh : What Allah willed!
The questioner: Yes, praise be to Allah.
The Shaykh: And if Allah wills, with a lawful mahr.
The questioner: Praise be to Allah, it is not praise be to Allah, Lord of the worlds, the lawful, by the permission of Allah, and if it does not become easy, we will wait.
The Shaykh : Praise be to Allah.
The questioner: We seek the lawful, the good.
The Shaykh: We congratulate him and pray for him with the supplication of the Messenger (peace be upon him):
May Allah bless him and bless her, and unite them in goodness.
بارك الله له وبارك عليه وجمع بينهما في خيرThe questioner: O Allah, amen. May Allah reward you, our Shaykh.
The Shaykh: And my warm greetings to him, then.
The questioner: It will reach him, by the permission of Allah the Exalted. And you, our Shaykh, convey my greetings to our brothers who are present with you.
The Shaykh: If Allah wills, it will reach him.
The questioner : May Allah reward you.
The Shaykh : And may He reward you.
The questioner : And peace be upon you, and Allah's mercy and blessings.
The Shaykh : And upon you be peace, and the mercy of Allah and His blessings and His forgiveness.
The questioner: O Allah, O Shaykh, you are with us.
The Shaykh: And upon you peace.
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