Does maintaining family ties extend only to the man's relatives?
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The Shaykh : Yes, please go ahead.
The questioner : ... May Allah bless you.
The Shaykh : Welcome.
The questioner : I want to ask about family ties.
The Shaykh: Yes.
The questioner : Who is obligated to maintain them, and who is it that if he cuts them off, it is considered rectifying the situation?
The Shaykh : .
The questioner : I heard, do you know what it is? One of the brothers conveyed it, saying that the family tie is specific to the 'asabah (residuary male heirs); the 'asabah of the man is the family tie of the man.
The Shaykh : Yes.
The questioner : There are opinions that say any relative, every relative is your family tie, and you are obligated to maintain it.
The Shaykh : Yes, this second meaning, my brother, is broader, because there is a sound hadith in which the Messenger (peace and blessings be upon him) said:.
The student: Yes.
The Shaykh : Here, there is no kinship at all, except that the father had a friend, so the son says: The Messenger (peace and blessings be upon him) said that the most righteous of righteousness is to maintain this friend on account of the friendship that existed between him and his father. So what about kinship?
The student : Yes, this is a great matter.
The Shaykh : Do you understand how it is? May Allah bless you.
The student: Yes.
The Shaykh : So this is even more deserving.
The student : Right, okay, Shaykh, I mean, if we feel the physical aspect, for example, if a person commits a sin and becomes...
The Shaykh : By Allah, this determination, may Allah reward you, from the closest of relatives, it is not possible, for example, for one to maintain his sister, his sister, when is he maintaining her and when is he cutting her off? This varies according to residence, for example, is he close to her or far from her? Is he, for example, busy or free? All of this must be taken into account. The important thing in such cases that do not have clear limits is that the Lawgiver left them to the mindfulness (taqwa) of the believer. Here comes his saying (peace be upon him):; meaning, when the Muslim sees that, by Allah, he is falling short with his family, at that time, when his conscience rebukes him, what must he do? He must return to maintaining the tie. But if he finds his situation, for example, busy, the distance far, and there is no transportation, then our Lord (Mighty and Majestic) does not overlook anything. In summary, there is no determination by days, because the matter varies from person to person.
The student : May Allah reward you with good and bless you.
The Shaykh : May Allah preserve you.
The student : If Allah wills, we will finish today at two o'clock.
The Shaykh : Welcome.
The student : May Allah reward you.
The Shaykh: Peace be upon you.
The student : Your prayers, if Allah wills. May Allah reward you with good.
The Shaykh: Peace be upon you.
The student : And upon you be peace and the mercy of Allah.
The questioner : ... May Allah bless you.
The Shaykh : Welcome.
The questioner : I want to ask about family ties.
The Shaykh: Yes.
The questioner : Who is obligated to maintain them, and who is it that if he cuts them off, it is considered rectifying the situation?
The Shaykh :
Whoever maintains his family ties, Allah will maintain him, and whoever cuts them off, Allah will cut him off.
مَن وصلَ رَحِمَه وصلَه الله ، ومَن قطع قطعَه اللهThe questioner : I heard, do you know what it is? One of the brothers conveyed it, saying that the family tie is specific to the 'asabah (residuary male heirs); the 'asabah of the man is the family tie of the man.
The Shaykh : Yes.
The questioner : There are opinions that say any relative, every relative is your family tie, and you are obligated to maintain it.
The Shaykh : Yes, this second meaning, my brother, is broader, because there is a sound hadith in which the Messenger (peace and blessings be upon him) said:
Indeed, among the most righteous acts of righteousness is maintaining the ties with your father's friends.
إنَّ مِن أبَرِّ البِرِّ أن تصلَ أهلَ ودِّ أبيكThe student: Yes.
The Shaykh : Here, there is no kinship at all, except that the father had a friend, so the son says: The Messenger (peace and blessings be upon him) said that the most righteous of righteousness is to maintain this friend on account of the friendship that existed between him and his father. So what about kinship?
The student : Yes, this is a great matter.
The Shaykh : Do you understand how it is? May Allah bless you.
The student: Yes.
The Shaykh : So this is even more deserving.
The student : Right, okay, Shaykh, I mean, if we feel the physical aspect, for example, if a person commits a sin and becomes...
The Shaykh : By Allah, this determination, may Allah reward you, from the closest of relatives, it is not possible, for example, for one to maintain his sister, his sister, when is he maintaining her and when is he cutting her off? This varies according to residence, for example, is he close to her or far from her? Is he, for example, busy or free? All of this must be taken into account. The important thing in such cases that do not have clear limits is that the Lawgiver left them to the mindfulness (taqwa) of the believer. Here comes his saying (peace be upon him):
Consult your heart, and if the scholars have given you a ruling.
استفْتِ قلبك وإن أفتاك المفتونThe student : May Allah reward you with good and bless you.
The Shaykh : May Allah preserve you.
The student : If Allah wills, we will finish today at two o'clock.
The Shaykh : Welcome.
The student : May Allah reward you.
The Shaykh: Peace be upon you.
The student : Your prayers, if Allah wills. May Allah reward you with good.
The Shaykh: Peace be upon you.
The student : And upon you be peace and the mercy of Allah.
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