A dispute occurred between me and my wife, and I became extremely angry and divorced her, then I regretted it. What is the ruling of the Shari'ah in this matter?
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The Shaykh: And upon you peace.
The questioner : Shaykh Nasser is present with Allah.
The Shaykh : He is with you.
The questioner : Well, peace be upon you.
The Shaykh: And upon you peace.
The questioner : I want to ask you a question, for the sake of Allah, O Shaykh.
The Shaykh: Go ahead.
The questioner : If a man... is in a state of anger and after he threw the three [divorces], meaning he hit his hand on his head and doesn't know what to do, what is the opinion of the Shari'ah?
The Shaykh : We need to hear from the person involved in the case.
The questioner : I am the person involved in the case.
The Shaykh : You are the person involved in the case.
The questioner: Yes.
The Shaykh : Tell us the details.
The questioner : The details are that we were arguing in a state of anger, meaning intense anger, and knowing that I was under pressure... from work and from home... so during the argument, I didn't realize I was saying this word.
The Shaykh : When did you say this word?
The questioner : Yes.
The Shaykh : When did you say this word?
The questioner : Today, meaning which day.
The Shaykh : How many days ago?
The questioner : On Friday.
The Shaykh : From Friday, it will be a week for you.
The questioner : I mean, during this period, my brother was calling the shaykhs he knows, meaning I was talking to my brother on the same day on the basis that he would bring me the most information about this matter, because at the same time I wanted him to.
The Shaykh : Okay, and then what information did your brother bring you?
The questioner : By Allah, everyone was saying that the person involved, meaning...
The Shaykh : Yes.
The questioner : Some days he would tell me... and promise me he would bring me the answer tomorrow... and he got the phone numbers of the shaykhs, among them you, and the first one I would speak to is you, meaning the two are connected.
The Shaykh : I mean, you have not issued a fatwa yet.
The questioner : No, by Allah, come on Shaykh, what is the method, what is the method I should follow?
The Shaykh : How long have you been married?
The questioner : For a year and two months.
The Shaykh : How old are you?
The questioner : Thirty-one.
The Shaykh : Did a divorce occur from you before this time?
The questioner : Absolutely not.
The Shaykh : It did not happen.
The questioner : Never, and I never thought about it, nor on any day that I would utter it.
The Shaykh : Okay, who was present when you divorced?
The questioner : By Allah, there was no one but me and her.
The Shaykh : Hmm.
The questioner : So, no one but you and her.
The Shaykh : But.
The questioner : But.
The Shaykh : Okay, are you committed to the rulings of the Shari'ah?
The questioner : If Allah wills.
The Shaykh : Which one?
The questioner : And she is too.
The Shaykh : Okay, will she testify that you were angry?
The questioner: Yes.
The Shaykh : Is she next to you?
The questioner : No, by Allah, she is in the other house.
The Shaykh : Why, how many houses do you have?
The questioner : No, I mean, in the house at my parents' place, meaning in another room, if you want me to bring her to speak with you.
The Shaykh : I just want to hear her testimony.
The questioner : Her testimony?
The Shaykh : Yes.
The questioner : Okay, wait for me just a little, O Shaykh.
The Shaykh : I mean, is she far away?
The questioner : Hmm.
The Shaykh : It is far.
The questioner : No, two minutes.
The Shaykh : Come on, okay.
The questioner : Hello.
The Shaykh: Peace be upon you.
The questioner : e : And peace be upon you.
The Shaykh : Do you testify regarding your husband that when the divorce occurred from him, he was irritated and angry?
The questioner : 's wife: Yes, he was very irritated.
The Shaykh : Okay, and the matter here involves what is lawful and what is forbidden, so your testimony must match reality, so surely he was irritated and angry.
The questioner : 's wife: Yes, it is natural because we were talking about a matter and this matter irritates me, so that is why he was very upset, and he was coming from work, meaning he was in a bad mood and upset, so we opened this topic and it increased the upset, so that is why.
The Shaykh : Okay, give him to me.
The questioner : Okay, that is fine.
The questioner: Peace be upon you.
The Shaykh : And peace be upon you, what is your father's name, what do they call you?
The questioner : By Allah, not yet, O Shaykh.
The Shaykh: May Allah guide you.
The questioner: Amen.
The Shaykh : Do you not know that it is Sunnah for a man to have a kunya, even if he is not married?
The questioner : By Allah, I have a kunya, Abu Qays.
The Shaykh : If so, why were you saying "not yet," may Allah guide you.
The questioner : If Allah wills, our Lord.
The Shaykh : Abu Qays, O Abu Qays, I want to advise you.
The questioner : Please, Shaykh.
The Shaykh : They say in the common proverbs: "Not every time do you break the jar."
The questioner: Correct.
The Shaykh : Therefore, I advise you not to get irritated or angry, because many scholars and shaykhs, if they hear from a man that he divorced his wife, even if he was in a state of anger, they do not listen to him and they separate him from his wife.
The questioner : Correct, I even, O Shaykh, without cutting off the hadith, meaning I do not like this word and in my life I have sworn by it.
The Shaykh : The important thing is that I am advising you, accept my advice.
The questioner : If Allah wills.
The Shaykh : Do not get angry at your wife or because of your wife, and control your nerves, because the Messenger (peace and blessings be upon him) said when a man came to him asking for advice (peace and blessings be upon him): Did you understand?
The questioner: Yes.
The Shaykh : Do not get angry, this is my advice to you before the fatwa, and the fatwa is that there is no divorce between you and your wife, and praise be to Allah.
The questioner : If Allah wills, she will in any case want to speak with you, O Shaykh.
The Shaykh : Good, if Allah wills.
The questioner : Shaykh Nasser is present with Allah.
The Shaykh : He is with you.
The questioner : Well, peace be upon you.
The Shaykh: And upon you peace.
The questioner : I want to ask you a question, for the sake of Allah, O Shaykh.
The Shaykh: Go ahead.
The questioner : If a man... is in a state of anger and after he threw the three [divorces], meaning he hit his hand on his head and doesn't know what to do, what is the opinion of the Shari'ah?
The Shaykh : We need to hear from the person involved in the case.
The questioner : I am the person involved in the case.
The Shaykh : You are the person involved in the case.
The questioner: Yes.
The Shaykh : Tell us the details.
The questioner : The details are that we were arguing in a state of anger, meaning intense anger, and knowing that I was under pressure... from work and from home... so during the argument, I didn't realize I was saying this word.
The Shaykh : When did you say this word?
The questioner : Yes.
The Shaykh : When did you say this word?
The questioner : Today, meaning which day.
The Shaykh : How many days ago?
The questioner : On Friday.
The Shaykh : From Friday, it will be a week for you.
The questioner : I mean, during this period, my brother was calling the shaykhs he knows, meaning I was talking to my brother on the same day on the basis that he would bring me the most information about this matter, because at the same time I wanted him to.
The Shaykh : Okay, and then what information did your brother bring you?
The questioner : By Allah, everyone was saying that the person involved, meaning...
The Shaykh : Yes.
The questioner : Some days he would tell me... and promise me he would bring me the answer tomorrow... and he got the phone numbers of the shaykhs, among them you, and the first one I would speak to is you, meaning the two are connected.
The Shaykh : I mean, you have not issued a fatwa yet.
The questioner : No, by Allah, come on Shaykh, what is the method, what is the method I should follow?
The Shaykh : How long have you been married?
The questioner : For a year and two months.
The Shaykh : How old are you?
The questioner : Thirty-one.
The Shaykh : Did a divorce occur from you before this time?
The questioner : Absolutely not.
The Shaykh : It did not happen.
The questioner : Never, and I never thought about it, nor on any day that I would utter it.
The Shaykh : Okay, who was present when you divorced?
The questioner : By Allah, there was no one but me and her.
The Shaykh : Hmm.
The questioner : So, no one but you and her.
The Shaykh : But.
The questioner : But.
The Shaykh : Okay, are you committed to the rulings of the Shari'ah?
The questioner : If Allah wills.
The Shaykh : Which one?
The questioner : And she is too.
The Shaykh : Okay, will she testify that you were angry?
The questioner: Yes.
The Shaykh : Is she next to you?
The questioner : No, by Allah, she is in the other house.
The Shaykh : Why, how many houses do you have?
The questioner : No, I mean, in the house at my parents' place, meaning in another room, if you want me to bring her to speak with you.
The Shaykh : I just want to hear her testimony.
The questioner : Her testimony?
The Shaykh : Yes.
The questioner : Okay, wait for me just a little, O Shaykh.
The Shaykh : I mean, is she far away?
The questioner : Hmm.
The Shaykh : It is far.
The questioner : No, two minutes.
The Shaykh : Come on, okay.
The questioner : Hello.
The Shaykh: Peace be upon you.
The questioner : e : And peace be upon you.
The Shaykh : Do you testify regarding your husband that when the divorce occurred from him, he was irritated and angry?
The questioner : 's wife: Yes, he was very irritated.
The Shaykh : Okay, and the matter here involves what is lawful and what is forbidden, so your testimony must match reality, so surely he was irritated and angry.
The questioner : 's wife: Yes, it is natural because we were talking about a matter and this matter irritates me, so that is why he was very upset, and he was coming from work, meaning he was in a bad mood and upset, so we opened this topic and it increased the upset, so that is why.
The Shaykh : Okay, give him to me.
The questioner : Okay, that is fine.
The questioner: Peace be upon you.
The Shaykh : And peace be upon you, what is your father's name, what do they call you?
The questioner : By Allah, not yet, O Shaykh.
The Shaykh: May Allah guide you.
The questioner: Amen.
The Shaykh : Do you not know that it is Sunnah for a man to have a kunya, even if he is not married?
The questioner : By Allah, I have a kunya, Abu Qays.
The Shaykh : If so, why were you saying "not yet," may Allah guide you.
The questioner : If Allah wills, our Lord.
The Shaykh : Abu Qays, O Abu Qays, I want to advise you.
The questioner : Please, Shaykh.
The Shaykh : They say in the common proverbs: "Not every time do you break the jar."
The questioner: Correct.
The Shaykh : Therefore, I advise you not to get irritated or angry, because many scholars and shaykhs, if they hear from a man that he divorced his wife, even if he was in a state of anger, they do not listen to him and they separate him from his wife.
The questioner : Correct, I even, O Shaykh, without cutting off the hadith, meaning I do not like this word and in my life I have sworn by it.
The Shaykh : The important thing is that I am advising you, accept my advice.
The questioner : If Allah wills.
The Shaykh : Do not get angry at your wife or because of your wife, and control your nerves, because the Messenger (peace and blessings be upon him) said when a man came to him asking for advice (peace and blessings be upon him):
Do not get angry
لا تغضَبْThe questioner: Yes.
The Shaykh : Do not get angry, this is my advice to you before the fatwa, and the fatwa is that there is no divorce between you and your wife, and praise be to Allah.
The questioner : If Allah wills, she will in any case want to speak with you, O Shaykh.
The Shaykh : Good, if Allah wills.
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