My mother loves good deeds and acts of worship, but this work is mixed with some errors, for example, she persists in fasting even though the doctors advise her to reduce it

The questioner : I have a mother who loves good deeds and acts of worship, but this action is mixed with some errors. For example: she is constantly fasting, but the doctors advise her to ease up on it, so she does not yield to them.
Secondly, she is constantly standing in prayer, but this leads to harm to her and to her health. We have advised her not to stand in prayer because of the fatigue it causes her, but she resorts to some medications that help her do so,
which are harmful to her health.
Also, she always wants to go to the Haram and perform tawaf around the House, especially on Thursdays and Fridays. She exhausts herself with tawaf and prayer, and returns to her home in a state of extreme fatigue. I know that I refuse to take her to the Haram as a form of protest against what she does, so she goes with the driver, and likewise returns without a companion with her.
So what is your opinion, your eminence, on what she is doing, and what I am doing? May Allah reward you with good.

The Shaykh :-I see that I am not responsible for... if it gets ruined or something-.
The summary of this question is: they have a mother who is eager to do good, but she burdens herself in doing so, and this is contrary to what is prescribed. It is not prescribed, nor is it required of a person to worship Allah the Exalted with acts of worship that burden him, due to the saying of the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) to Abdullah ibn Amr ibn al-As, and he said (may Allah be pleased with him): he stands in prayer at night and does not sleep, and fasts during the day and does not break his fast. The Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) said to him: .
A person’s self is a trust in his possession, and it is obligatory for him to care for it with proper care.
And the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) said: .
And if a person is in something obligatory, and it burdens him, then he is excused from it, so what do you say about something recommended?
Regarding the obligatory thing, the Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings be upon him) said to Umrان ibn Husayn: . -Pay attention, my brother- Is standing in the obligatory prayer?
The students: Obligatory.

The Shaykh : Obligatory, indeed it is a pillar; the prayer is not valid without it.
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So we say to this woman – we ask Allah the Exalted to increase her in His grace, desiring His obedience – but we say to her: she should proceed in the obedience of Allah according to what came in the Shari'ah of Allah Mighty and Majestic, and not burden herself. Even the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him), when the Companions (may Allah be pleased with them) raised their voices in dhikr, what did he say to them?
The Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings be upon him) said to them: Do not burden them, proceed with tranquility, as people walk in the spring.
And people in the spring walk with tranquility, they do not hasten in walking until the camels graze, and they do not strain in walking.
So the result is that my advice to this mother – and perhaps the questioner will convey that to her through the recordings – is that she should fear Allah regarding herself, and not burden herself, neither by fasting nor by standing in prayer nor by anything else.
As for her riding with the driver alone, this is forbidden, because it is not permissible for a woman to be alone with a man in a car who is not a mahram for her, due to the saying of the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him): And this prohibition is general.
As for travel, a woman does not travel without a mahram, even if she has others with her.
So here there are two matters: seclusion is forbidden in the city and in travel, and travel is forbidden except with a mahram, but it is forbidden in travel only.
The result is: what some people do of a woman riding alone with the driver is forbidden and not permissible.
It is not permissible for a woman to ride alone with the driver, because she is in seclusion with the man.
Some people say that this is not seclusion, because she is walking in the market!!
It is said: No, it is seclusion, indeed it is greater, because most cars now have the windows closed.
So if the man spoke to her with any speech, no one would hear it, and because in reality he is alone with her in her room, because the car is like a room, and because we are often asked about such issues where very serious incidents occur.
According to the inquiries or questions that come to us about this, very serious incidents occur, until we were asked about issues that occurred in this month, in the month of Ramadan, of this type of people who take women in cars alone with them, which are serious; I do not like to mention them in this place, because they are very vile and spoil their fasting if they ride the woman alone with them.
So the important thing is that no sane person doubts that a woman riding with the driver alone is forbidden due to its falling under seclusion, and because it leads to many harms and trials.
So this woman now is a poor soul who goes to the Haram with the driver alone, he is alone with her, and she falls into what Allah Mighty and Majestic has forbidden, to achieve a matter that is not obligatory upon her.

The questioner : Regarding the son, O Shaykh? Meaning, he refuses?

The Shaykh : As for the son’s refusal to take her to the Holy Mosque, if his intention is perhaps that she will refrain, then this is good.
But the problem is that she is insistent on going, so I see that he should not refuse as long as, if he does not take her, she asks the driver to take her, and he is not a mahram. So what I see is that he should not refuse if she is determined to go.