One whose parent ordered him to divorce his wife?
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The Shaykh : A question like this comes up very often, and very frequently indeed, and we are asked about it. The questioner says: "I married a wife, and I am content with her, and so on, but my father is ordering me to divorce her. Should I divorce her or keep her?"
In this situation, we do not tell him: "Do not keep her." We do not tell him: "Keep her." And we do not tell him: "Divorce her." Why? Because in both keeping her and divorcing her, there is disobedience. If he keeps her and his father wants him to divorce her, he has disobeyed his father, and this is a sin. If he keeps her, he has disobeyed his father. If he divorces her, he has obeyed his father in one respect, but it is feared that he will fall into another problem on a psychological level; that is, it is feared that his heart will be filled with regret for her, and then he will be in a state of confusion, not knowing what to do. He divorced her, but he cannot reach her, because his father wants him to divorce her, and he cannot bear to be without her. So what does he do? This reminds us of an authentic hadith in Sunan al-Nasa'i and others, in which a man came to the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) and said: "O Messenger of Allah, my wife, my wife—yes, may Allah reward you with good—O Messenger of Allah, my wife does not return the hand of one who touches her, she does not return the hand of one who touches her."
The questioner : The hand of one who touches her.
The Shaykh : ... she does not return the hand of one who touches her. He said—(peace and blessings be upon him)—:. He said: "O Messenger of Allah, I love her." He said: ; what happened...? You are complaining that she does not return the hand of one who touches her. The fact that she does not return the hand of one who touches her means that the husband is jealous, so he is not pleased with his wife for not returning the hand of one who touches her. So you must divorce her. He said: "But I love her, O Messenger of Allah." He said: ; meaning, keep her despite her flaws and shortcomings, and as it came in the authentic hadith: .
The point is: When the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) said to him:, he ordered him to divorce her because she was bad in her conduct.
In this situation, we do not tell him: "Do not keep her." We do not tell him: "Keep her." And we do not tell him: "Divorce her." Why? Because in both keeping her and divorcing her, there is disobedience. If he keeps her and his father wants him to divorce her, he has disobeyed his father, and this is a sin. If he keeps her, he has disobeyed his father. If he divorces her, he has obeyed his father in one respect, but it is feared that he will fall into another problem on a psychological level; that is, it is feared that his heart will be filled with regret for her, and then he will be in a state of confusion, not knowing what to do. He divorced her, but he cannot reach her, because his father wants him to divorce her, and he cannot bear to be without her. So what does he do? This reminds us of an authentic hadith in Sunan al-Nasa'i and others, in which a man came to the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) and said: "O Messenger of Allah, my wife, my wife—yes, may Allah reward you with good—O Messenger of Allah, my wife does not return the hand of one who touches her, she does not return the hand of one who touches her."
The questioner : The hand of one who touches her.
The Shaykh : ... she does not return the hand of one who touches her. He said—(peace and blessings be upon him)—:
Divorce her
طلِّقهاSo keep her
فأمسكهاSo keep her
فأمسكهاIf you do not like a character trait in her, you will like another character trait in her
إن لم يعجبك منها خُلُق أعجبك منها خُلُق أخرThe point is: When the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) said to him:
Divorce her
طلِّقها
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