Does a man touching his wife’s private parts, or a woman touching her husband’s or her infant son’s penis, invalidate the ablution?

The Shaykh : In some authentic hadiths, the term "private parts" is used instead of "penis." Here, "private parts" is broader than "penis" because it includes both the female and male organs. In that case, we can imagine a man playing with his wife’s private parts, just as we can imagine a wife playing with her husband’s penis. If the intention behind either of these acts is to arouse and stir up desire, that is what invalidates the ablution. It is not merely the touch itself, as some women imagine when they ask many questions: "I washed my infant son and touched his organ. Glory be to Allah! What is wrong with that?" There is nothing wrong with that, nor with anything greater or more than that, as long as the touch is not accompanied by the intention of the private parts with desire. And this extent is sufficient, I hope it is enough?

The questioner : May Allah reward you with good.

The Shaykh : May Allah preserve you.