Is the statement of Allah the Exalted: (( ... they should wait for themselves four months and ten days ...
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'Aid 'Abassi: A woman whose husband has died. The questioner says, according to his understanding, that the verse explicitly states that she must stay and not speak to anyone for four months and four days. Is there any leeway in her speaking to a mahram, and is it permissible for her to go out with him or enter the homes of a mahram?
The Shaykh : The verse does not mean abstaining from speech, and this is not prescribed in Islam. Rather, it means that a woman whose husband has died does not go out, does not adorn herself, does not use perfume, and does not wear dyed clothes or jewelry as mourning for her husband. Part of this is that she does not leave her house. The meaning of "staying" here, in the questioner's expression, is not staying silent from speech, but rather not leaving the house. However, if there is a dire necessity, it is permissible for her to go out, as well as for a woman who has been divorced three times. But the speech from which she is prohibited is the waste of words, the excessive talking that serves no purpose, which has afflicted our women, and even our men. You know, with great regret, that in women's gatherings, Allah is rarely mentioned, and the law of Allah is rarely studied. Instead, the talk is about worldly matters, types of clothing, fashions, and the like. It is this specific type of speech that every Muslim woman should stop, and especially a woman in the waiting period, whether it is the waiting period after death or the waiting period after divorce. But this does not mean that if the baker comes and knocks on the door, she should not come out. As some of our brothers do, as we were told, if he knocks on the door, he stays there, and she understands in a way that is not like a wireless method, naturally, so that she understands him and he understands her. This speech is permissible here because it is for the realization of necessities that are required. But sitting and making conversation behind the door with the butcher's employee or the baker ... that is the custom of many women today, with regret. And it is not just the waste of speech, but also appearing before men without, what? A hijab. And our Lord, Mighty and Majestic, prohibited this in the Noble Qur'an and said:[Al-Ahzab 33:53].
'Aid 'Abassi:[Al-Ahzab 33:53].
The Shaykh :[Al-Ahzab 33:53] The intended meaning is not the hijab that a woman wears when she goes out, but rather being behind a fixed barrier, which is the door, the curtain hanging behind the door, and the like.
This is one of the matters that the Lawgiver commanded in general for all women, and in particular for those in the waiting period after death or after divorce. Speaking is permissible for her within the limits of need, and going out is also permissible for her within the limits of need and dire necessity. But she must not go out, for example, to visit her sister or her neighbor. She usually goes out, and such going out, if it is in accordance with the Shari'ah, is not prohibited. But now, she must stay in the house and not go out. As for speech, it is permissible within the limits of Shari'ah permissibility.
The questioner : Excuse me, Professor ... Doctor ... women ... the house, meaning the man was, for example ...
The Shaykh : As long as it is possible for the doctor to come and she has the doctor's fee, it is not permissible for her to go out. Yes.
The Shaykh : The verse does not mean abstaining from speech, and this is not prescribed in Islam. Rather, it means that a woman whose husband has died does not go out, does not adorn herself, does not use perfume, and does not wear dyed clothes or jewelry as mourning for her husband. Part of this is that she does not leave her house. The meaning of "staying" here, in the questioner's expression, is not staying silent from speech, but rather not leaving the house. However, if there is a dire necessity, it is permissible for her to go out, as well as for a woman who has been divorced three times. But the speech from which she is prohibited is the waste of words, the excessive talking that serves no purpose, which has afflicted our women, and even our men. You know, with great regret, that in women's gatherings, Allah is rarely mentioned, and the law of Allah is rarely studied. Instead, the talk is about worldly matters, types of clothing, fashions, and the like. It is this specific type of speech that every Muslim woman should stop, and especially a woman in the waiting period, whether it is the waiting period after death or the waiting period after divorce. But this does not mean that if the baker comes and knocks on the door, she should not come out. As some of our brothers do, as we were told, if he knocks on the door, he stays there, and she understands in a way that is not like a wireless method, naturally, so that she understands him and he understands her. This speech is permissible here because it is for the realization of necessities that are required. But sitting and making conversation behind the door with the butcher's employee or the baker ... that is the custom of many women today, with regret. And it is not just the waste of speech, but also appearing before men without, what? A hijab. And our Lord, Mighty and Majestic, prohibited this in the Noble Qur'an and said:
And when you ask [his wives] for something, ask them from behind a partition
وإذا سألتموهن متاعا فاسألوهن من وراء حجاب'Aid 'Abassi:
And when you ask [his wives] for something
وإذا سألتموهن متاعاThe Shaykh :
And when you ask [his wives] for something, ask them from behind a partition
وإذا سألتموهن متاعا فاسألوهن من وراء حجابThis is one of the matters that the Lawgiver commanded in general for all women, and in particular for those in the waiting period after death or after divorce. Speaking is permissible for her within the limits of need, and going out is also permissible for her within the limits of need and dire necessity. But she must not go out, for example, to visit her sister or her neighbor. She usually goes out, and such going out, if it is in accordance with the Shari'ah, is not prohibited. But now, she must stay in the house and not go out. As for speech, it is permissible within the limits of Shari'ah permissibility.
The questioner : Excuse me, Professor ... Doctor ... women ... the house, meaning the man was, for example ...
The Shaykh : As long as it is possible for the doctor to come and she has the doctor's fee, it is not permissible for her to go out. Yes.