Questioned about visiting relatives who have daughters who are not wearing hijab, and whether he should cut them off or visit them and remind them.

The questioner : The situation you described in the Muslim community, and you know the calamities that the Muslim community is afflicted with today, such as nakedness, lack of taqwa (mindfulness of Allah), corruption, and free mixing of men and women. So if I wanted to go to my aunt, for example, and found her in an atmosphere of nakedness, should I cut off my aunt, or should I go in that atmosphere and remind her?

The Shaykh : Yes, it is obligatory for the Muslim to fulfill the duty of da'wah (calling others to Islam). Listen, my brother, may Allah guide you.

The questioner: Go ahead.

The Shaykh : It is obligatory for him to fulfill the duty of da'wah (calling others to Islam) and the duty of enjoining good and forbidding evil, even with those who are not close relatives, let alone close relatives. Then, if he is exposed to some of these wrongdoings that you mentioned while maintaining contact with his relatives, he must admonish and remind them in this matter, and be patient with it until he reaches a point where he is hopeless of seeing the effect of his da'wah (calling others to Islam) in them. At that time, if he sees that cutting them off would be beneficial, then he cuts them off, and he is not responsible for having cut off a family tie, because this cutting off was a victory for the Shari'ah (Islamic sacred law), not following of desires.

The questioner : Is there another situation?

The Shaykh: Go ahead.

The questioner : If I am a young man who does not trust myself regarding fitnah (trial, discord or temptation) and I go, for example, to my aunt's house, and my aunt's daughters might be alone, should I speak to them without a man present, or without my aunt?

The Shaykh : No, it is not permissible for you to enter upon them.

The questioner : If I do not find anyone from the relatives?

The Shaykh : It is not permissible.

The questioner : Should I not enter?

The Shaykh : It is not permissible for you to enter.

The questioner : May Allah reward you with good.

The Shaykh : And beware of that.

The questioner : There is... I want to inquire about this topic. I used to be jealous of my aunt's daughters, and they are in corruption, or my relatives. Should I speak to them in the presence of my relatives and aunts? That is, if we are sitting in a gathering, should I admonish them and remind them?

The Shaykh : If you are not afraid for yourself, and your words frighten me from you.

The questioner : Why?

The Shaykh: Yes.

The questioner : Why?

The Shaykh : Why?

The questioner : Why do you fear me?

The Shaykh : Because you are a young man and not married.

The questioner : Yes, yes.

The Shaykh : This is what makes me fear. So if you are not afraid of fitnah (trial, discord or temptation) for yourself, go to them in the presence of a mahram (a relative one may not marry) or at least in the presence of their mother. Admonish them and remind them, but you must strive to control yourself during that time and lower your gaze as much as you are able to do so. If you are that man, do it; otherwise, stay away from the evil and be content with that.

The questioner : May Allah reward you with good.

The Shaykh : May Allah preserve you.

The questioner : I remembered a specific situation in my case. My brother is their brother through breastfeeding, and my brother is committed, praise be to Allah. Should I let him speak to his sisters, who are my aunt's daughters, and I stay away from the matter?

The Shaykh : That is better for you.

The questioner : Is that better?

The Shaykh : Yes, exactly.

The questioner : May Allah reward you with good, and I am sorry for the length.

The Shaykh : Welcome.

The questioner : Peace be upon you

The Shaykh : And upon you be peace, and the mercy of Allah and His blessings.

The Shaykh: Yes.

Another questioner: Peace be upon you.

The Shaykh : And upon you be peace and the mercy of Allah.

Another questioner : With you is Jamal al-Harthy. How are you, Shaykh?

The Shaykh : Welcome, how are you?

Another questioner : Praise be to Allah, we thank Allah to you.

The Shaykh : May you be well.

Another questioner : Praise be to Allah, we are well, and all praise is for Allah.

The Shaykh : Welcome.

Another questioner : I do not know, do you have time for me, Shaykh, or are you busy?

The Shaykh : By Allah, I have many people with me, some from Kuwait and some from your area. If you have some free time, take a look to the left.

The questioner : May Allah reward you with good. Peace be upon you.

The Shaykh : And upon you be peace, and the mercy of Allah and His blessings.