Does the prohibition in the saying of the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) (Do not say, "What Allah and Muhammad willed") apply to (O the pleasure of Allah and the pleasure of the parents)?

The questioner : Does the saying "What Allah willed, then I willed" apply to what we often repeat, "O the pleasure of Allah and the pleasure of the parents"?

The Shaykh : Ah, this is a good question. The pleasure of the parents actually needs to be qualified. If the person saying "O the pleasure of Allah and the pleasure of the parents" intends their prescribed pleasure, their prescribed pleasure, then this is from the pleasure of Allah, as the Exalted said in the Noble Qur'an: This is one who has performed this advice; he has pleased Allah first, and then the parents second. This pleasing is worship; it is worship. But if he pleases the father or the mother by disobeying Allah, then this is not worship, and it is not permissible to say this word at all in that case. This distinction must be observed. If this word is said, we do not recommend that it be said in this context: Because when a person says "the pleasure of the parents," he does not observe this detail that I am explaining now, because most people do not know, as the Lord of the Worlds said in the Noble Qur'an. And we know from the reality of Muslim life that many fathers with their sons, and sons with their fathers, do not observe the prescribed pleasure, but rather pleasure without this qualification. For example, suppose a father is poor or of moderate means, and his son is wealthy and very rich. He is kind to his father, honors him, feeds him with his money, and does everything to please him. But this son does not pray, and his parents are pleased with him, why? Because he benefits them. But your Lord is not pleased with this boy. So here, in such a case, one does not say "O the pleasure of Allah and the pleasure of the parents." Yes, the parents are pleased here, but the Lord of the Worlds is not pleased. And here I mention a joke I usually hear from one of our witty friends in Damascus. Although he was almost uneducated, he would bring some of his friends to attend the gathering, hoping to benefit from some knowledge or hear a good sermon. So he would joke and say, "Let me introduce you to so-and-so. This is so-and-so, the son of so-and-so. He is pleasing to the parents, but the Lord of the Worlds is angry with him."
And we observe how sons usually, or mostly, please their fathers by greeting the fathers and mothers in the morning with a kiss of the hand, and when they want to go to sleep in the evening, they also greet them with a kiss of the hand. But they do not pray, perhaps, and do not fast. And so our friend said this: "He is pleasing to the parents, but the Lord of the Worlds is angry with him." What is the benefit of this pleasure of the parents, as long as this pleasure is not approved by Allah, Mighty and Majestic? From here we know the difference between the prescribed pleasure of the parents and the non-prescribed pleasure of the parents. Nevertheless, I return and say that it is not recommended to direct such a call, even if one intends the prescribed pleasure; because it is related to the created being, so it is an attribute of the created being and not an attribute of the Creator, except for the first part of the phrase, "O the pleasure of Allah." We stop there. The answer is clear, if Allah wills. Yes.