The Shaykh’s advice to a man who filed a lawsuit against his mother because she wronged him
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The Shaykh : We advise our brother Abu Abdullah to drop the lawsuit he filed against his mother, even if she was unjust.
The questioner: Yes.
The Shaykh : Is that acceptable to you?
The questioner: Yes.
The Shaykh: All right.
The questioner: All right, O Shaykh.
The Shaykh : This is because the mother, and the father as well, have rights over their children that excuse any deficiency, any shortcoming, and indeed any injustice that may occur from either of them toward a child.
The questioner: Yes.
The Shaykh : We say this based on the saying of Allah (Blessed and Exalted is He) in the well-known verse:[Al-Isra 17:23-24] All of this, or all that is mentioned in this verse, is completely different from a child filing a lawsuit against his father.
The questioner: Yes.
The Shaykh : Here, we must remember that it is the right of the parents over the child that if they order the child to do something whose origin is permissible in the Shari'ah, it is obligatory for the child to obey them at that time.
The questioner: Yes.
The Shaykh : And on the condition that carrying out that order is within the child's capability. This ruling also applies between the Muslim ruler, who is the one in authority, and any individual of the people, by the saying of Allah (Blessed and Exalted is He):[An-Nisa 4:59], and it came in some authentic hadiths in "Sahih Muslim" and others: "That the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) ordered obedience to the one in authority," and he (peace and blessings be upon him) explicitly stated that this is obligatory, saying: Mishkat al-Masabih 5396 So here we are with the mother in the story of the inquiry; she has taken the money of the son or some of the sons, so she must be obeyed, and it is not obligatory to insult her, nor is it permissible to rebuke her. Rather, as the Exalted said in the previous verse: [Al-Isra 17:24] So whoever wants to verify this verse with all its rulings, and especially its end: [Al-Isra 17:24] cannot dare to file a lawsuit against his unjust mother. And from here we come to the authentic hadith: And when I mention this hadith for this answer, I do not mean that it is permissible for the father or the mother to seize the son's money without needing it from him. But the discussion now is not about what is permissible for the father or the mother and what is not, but rather about the right of the son. He must remember this authentic hadith: , and then he must also remember here the reality of the toil of each of the parents with the child, which is represented in what Imam al-Bukhari narrated in "Al-Adab al-Mufrad" from Ibn 'Umar (may Allah be pleased with him): "That he saw a Yemeni man who had carried his mother on his back and was circumambulating with her around the Ka'bah. So Ibn 'Umar asked: Has he fulfilled the right of his mother by carrying her from Yemen like this on his back so that he could make her perform Hajj? He said to him: No, not even one push of the birth."
The questioner : Not even one push.
The Shaykh : Of the pushes of the birth.
The questioner : The birth, yes.
The Shaykh : When his mother gave birth to him, she carried him and delivered him with reluctance upon reluctance. So for all these reasons, we advise our brother Abu Abdullah, who is our brother in the unseen, not to continue with that lawsuit. And perhaps he should apologize. And this is the end of what I have. And perhaps he should apologize to his mother so that she is pleased with him. Not because she wronged him, but because he did not fulfill her right over him when he filed that lawsuit.
The questioner : Her right over him when he filed that lawsuit.
The Shaykh : If she were not his mother, we would say: continue with filing the lawsuit, on the condition that the judges are those who judge by what Allah has revealed.
The questioner : Allah is the Greatest. Even if she were not his mother, we said: continue with the lawsuit, on the condition that the...
The Shaykh : The ruler or the judge judges by what Allah has revealed.
The questioner : Judges by what Allah has revealed.
The Shaykh : This is what I have, and what Allah has made easy for me of an answer, according to the weak, feeble memory.
The questioner : May Allah reward you with good, Shaykh.
The Shaykh : And may Allah protect you, if Allah wills.
The questioner : May Allah reward you with good. May Allah bless you.
The Shaykh : And may He reward you.
The questioner : Waiting for you, if Allah wills, in Irbid soon, with Abu Abdullah, and if Allah wills.
The Shaykh : Yes, yes, go to Abu Abdullah.
The questioner : May Allah reward you with good, O Shaykh.
The Shaykh : Go to Abu Abdullah, our neighbor.
The questioner : Yes, he has a phone, he is, O Shaykh.
The Shaykh : And it is not you who should go to Abu Abdullah the questioner.
The questioner : May Allah reward you with good. Abu Abdullah has a phone.
The Shaykh : Yes, yes, he has a phone.
The questioner : What is his phone number, please?
The Shaykh : Eight, nine, five, zero. Excuse me, eight, nine, five, one, two, nine.
The questioner : May Allah reward you with good, Shaykh.
The Shaykh : And may Allah protect you, if Allah wills.
The questioner : Peace be upon you, and Allah’s mercy and blessings.
The Shaykh : Hurry with the good, here.
The questioner : May Allah reward you with good, O Shaykh.
The Shaykh : Hurry, hurry with the good.
The questioner : If Allah wills.
The Shaykh : And upon you be peace, and the mercy of Allah and His blessings.
The questioner : Is it permissible for one to sell land to a Christian?
The student : Ah, good, if Allah wills. I am asking...The Shaykh .
The questioner : And I will talk to you after ten minutes.
The student : If Allah wills.
The questioner : If Allah wills, peace be upon you.
The student : And upon you be peace, and the mercy of Allah and His blessings.
The questioner: Yes.
The Shaykh : Is that acceptable to you?
The questioner: Yes.
The Shaykh: All right.
The questioner: All right, O Shaykh.
The Shaykh : This is because the mother, and the father as well, have rights over their children that excuse any deficiency, any shortcoming, and indeed any injustice that may occur from either of them toward a child.
The questioner: Yes.
The Shaykh : We say this based on the saying of Allah (Blessed and Exalted is He) in the well-known verse:
(23) And your Lord has decreed that you not worship except Him, and to parents, good treatment. Whether one or both of them reach old age [while] with you, say not to them [so much as], "uff," and do not repel them but speak to them a noble word. (24) And lower to them the wing of humility out of mercy and say, "My Lord, have mercy upon them as they brought me up [when I was] small."
وَقَضَى رَبُّكَ أَلَّا تَعْبُدُوا إِلَّا إِيَّاهُ وَبِالْوَالِدَيْنِ إِحْسَانًا إِمَّا يَبْلُغَنَّ عِنْدَكَ الْكِبَرَ أَحَدُهُمَا أَوْ كِلَاهُمَا فَلَا تَقُلْ لَهُمَا أُفٍّ وَلَا تَنْهَرْهُمَا وَقُلْ لَهُمَا قَوْلًا كَرِيمًا * وَاخْفِضْ لَهُمَا جَنَاحَ الذُّلِّ مِنَ الرَّحْمَةِ وَقُلْ رَبِّ ارْحَمْهُمَا كَمَا رَبَّيَانِي صَغِيرًاThe questioner: Yes.
The Shaykh : Here, we must remember that it is the right of the parents over the child that if they order the child to do something whose origin is permissible in the Shari'ah, it is obligatory for the child to obey them at that time.
The questioner: Yes.
The Shaykh : And on the condition that carrying out that order is within the child's capability. This ruling also applies between the Muslim ruler, who is the one in authority, and any individual of the people, by the saying of Allah (Blessed and Exalted is He):
obey Allah and obey the Messenger and those in authority among you
أَطِيعُوا اللَّهَ وَأَطِيعُوا الرَّسُولَ وَأُولِي الْأَمْرِ مِنْكُمْwho flays your back and takes your property
ولو جلد ظهرك وأخذ مالكAnd lower to them the wing of humility out of mercy
وَاخْفِضْ لَهُمَا جَنَاحَ الذُّلِّ مِنَ الرَّحْمَةِAnd lower to them the wing of humility out of mercy
وَاخْفِضْ لَهُمَا جَنَاحَ الذُّلِّ مِنَ الرَّحْمَةِYou and your wealth belong to your father
أنت ومالك لأبيكYou and your wealth belong to your father
أنت ومالك لأبيكThe questioner : Not even one push.
The Shaykh : Of the pushes of the birth.
The questioner : The birth, yes.
The Shaykh : When his mother gave birth to him, she carried him and delivered him with reluctance upon reluctance. So for all these reasons, we advise our brother Abu Abdullah, who is our brother in the unseen, not to continue with that lawsuit. And perhaps he should apologize. And this is the end of what I have. And perhaps he should apologize to his mother so that she is pleased with him. Not because she wronged him, but because he did not fulfill her right over him when he filed that lawsuit.
The questioner : Her right over him when he filed that lawsuit.
The Shaykh : If she were not his mother, we would say: continue with filing the lawsuit, on the condition that the judges are those who judge by what Allah has revealed.
The questioner : Allah is the Greatest. Even if she were not his mother, we said: continue with the lawsuit, on the condition that the...
The Shaykh : The ruler or the judge judges by what Allah has revealed.
The questioner : Judges by what Allah has revealed.
The Shaykh : This is what I have, and what Allah has made easy for me of an answer, according to the weak, feeble memory.
The questioner : May Allah reward you with good, Shaykh.
The Shaykh : And may Allah protect you, if Allah wills.
The questioner : May Allah reward you with good. May Allah bless you.
The Shaykh : And may He reward you.
The questioner : Waiting for you, if Allah wills, in Irbid soon, with Abu Abdullah, and if Allah wills.
The Shaykh : Yes, yes, go to Abu Abdullah.
The questioner : May Allah reward you with good, O Shaykh.
The Shaykh : Go to Abu Abdullah, our neighbor.
The questioner : Yes, he has a phone, he is, O Shaykh.
The Shaykh : And it is not you who should go to Abu Abdullah the questioner.
The questioner : May Allah reward you with good. Abu Abdullah has a phone.
The Shaykh : Yes, yes, he has a phone.
The questioner : What is his phone number, please?
The Shaykh : Eight, nine, five, zero. Excuse me, eight, nine, five, one, two, nine.
The questioner : May Allah reward you with good, Shaykh.
The Shaykh : And may Allah protect you, if Allah wills.
The questioner : Peace be upon you, and Allah’s mercy and blessings.
The Shaykh : Hurry with the good, here.
The questioner : May Allah reward you with good, O Shaykh.
The Shaykh : Hurry, hurry with the good.
The questioner : If Allah wills.
The Shaykh : And upon you be peace, and the mercy of Allah and His blessings.
The questioner : Is it permissible for one to sell land to a Christian?
The student : Ah, good, if Allah wills. I am asking...The Shaykh .
The questioner : And I will talk to you after ten minutes.
The student : If Allah wills.
The questioner : If Allah wills, peace be upon you.
The student : And upon you be peace, and the mercy of Allah and His blessings.
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