Is it permissible for a man to visit the person he has boycotted and cut off family ties with?
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The questioner : Is it permissible for a man to visit the person he has boycotted and cut off family ties with?
The Shaykh : Yes, he should visit him, advise him, encourage him to maintain family ties, and warn him against cutting them off, so that perhaps Allah will guide him through him. On this occasion, I would like to point out an important matter, which is boycotting people who commit sins. Boycotting people who commit sins is permissible if there is a benefit in it, such that the sinner leaves the sin when he sees that people have boycotted him. However, if there is no benefit in it, and it may even increase the sinner's evil, then boycotting for more than three days is not permissible, based on the saying of the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him)Sahih Muslim 2560a. We said this because the sinner is a brother to his upright brother. The evidence for this is the saying of Allah, Blessed and Exalted is He, in the verse regarding retaliation [Al-Baqarah 2:178], where Allah the Exalted made the killer a brother to the one killed. And His saying in the verse regarding fighting [Al-Hujurat 49:9-10], where Allah the Exalted called the party that reconciles brothers to the two fighting parties, even though the fighting of believers against one another is among the major sins, among the greatest of major sins, to the extent that the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him and his family) called it disbelief and said: Sahih Muslim 65.
In summary, boycotting people who commit sins is prescribed if there is a benefit and advantage in it; otherwise, it is not prescribed.
The questioner : May Allah reward you, O honorable Shaykh, and may Allah bless you and your knowledge, and benefit the Muslims through you.
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The Shaykh : Yes, he should visit him, advise him, encourage him to maintain family ties, and warn him against cutting them off, so that perhaps Allah will guide him through him. On this occasion, I would like to point out an important matter, which is boycotting people who commit sins. Boycotting people who commit sins is permissible if there is a benefit in it, such that the sinner leaves the sin when he sees that people have boycotted him. However, if there is no benefit in it, and it may even increase the sinner's evil, then boycotting for more than three days is not permissible, based on the saying of the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him)
It is not permissible for a Muslim to have estranged relations with his brother beyond three nights, the one turning one way and the other turning the other way when they meet; the better of the two is one who is the first to give a greeting.
لا يحل للمؤمن أن يهجر أخاه فوق ثلاث يلتقيان فيُعرض هذا ويُعرض هذا وخيرهما الذي يبدؤ بالسلامBut whoever overlooks from his brother anything
فَمَن عُفِيَ لَهُ مِن أَخيهِ شَيءٌ(9) And if two factions among the believers should fight, then make settlement between the two. But if one of them oppresses the other, then fight against the one that oppresses until it returns to the ordinance of Allah. And if it returns, then make settlement between them in justice and act justly. Indeed, Allah loves those who act justly. (10) The believers are but brothers, so make settlement between your brothers. And fear Allah that you may receive mercy.
وَإِن طائِفَتانِ مِنَ المُؤمِنينَ اقتَتَلوا فَأَصلِحوا بَينَهُما فَإِن بَغَت إِحداهُما عَلَى الأُخرى فَقاتِلُوا الَّتي تَبغي حَتّى تَفيءَ إِلى أَمرِ اللَّهِ فَإِن فاءَت فَأَصلِحوا بَينَهُما بِالعَدلِ وَأَقسِطوا إِنَّ اللَّهَ يُحِبُّ المُقسِطينَ * إِنَّمَا المُؤمِنونَ إِخوَةٌ فَأَصلِحوا بَينَ أَخَوَيكُم وَاتَّقُوا اللَّهَ لَعَلَّكُم تُرحَمونَDo not return to unbelief after me by striking the necks of one another.
لا ترجعوا بعدي كفارا يضرب بعضكم رقاب بعضIn summary, boycotting people who commit sins is prescribed if there is a benefit and advantage in it; otherwise, it is not prescribed.
The questioner : May Allah reward you, O honorable Shaykh, and may Allah bless you and your knowledge, and benefit the Muslims through you.
O dear brothers, listeners, he has answered your questions.