The Shaykh's question regarding the ruling on a man who has a wife from whom he has children, and she is of bad character, so should he divorce her?

The questioner : There is a person who has reached me, and I am consulting you on a matter?

The Shaykh : Raise your voice.

The questioner : A man is married and has three children, and he wants to divorce his wife due to discord and conflict, claiming that she ... does not pray, and the conflict arose between him and his wife ... and he told her to swear ... and she insults him and curses him with the most hateful curses. So what is your advice in this matter?

The Shaykh : Naturally, the religious advice is to hasten to get rid of her by divorcing her. But you mention that he has three children from her. So, due to our ignorance of the character of this person, this husband afflicted with a wife of bad character, and this husband who has been afflicted with such a woman, it has come in a hadith and therefore we order him to divorce her, even if she were less bad than what you just described. However, the presence of these children first, and our ignorance of this husband's character second, and the strength of his faith third or fourth, we cannot say that he must hasten to divorce her, and this is the ruling, because we fear that he might be of that type, like that person who came to the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) and said "O Messenger of Allah, my wife does not turn back the hand of a toucher" He said And I say to this man whom I do not know, divorce her. He said "I love her" He said to him ... because if he told him to divorce her, he would divorce her, and perhaps he would go and deal with her in a haram way. No, pity on you, some evil is less than some. He said to him He said "I love her" He said This man about whom you are speaking, in my opinion, it is obligatory for him to hasten to divorce her so that he may be relieved of her in this world and the Hereafter. But the problem will be presented, and this happens to us often, questions of this type reach us, but I have so many children from her, so what do I do? You know best. Can you bear it without her, and can you take care of her children, or do you give her the children and she raises them and corrupts their upbringing, and so on? These are matters we cannot assess to their full value and know the reality of their situation. And secondly, the master of the house knows best what is in it. So the answer is said to this person: divorce her. But look, if you divorce her, will you return to her and become humiliated with her if you take her back, more than the first state? Where is our brother Rafiq? We need to ask permission. The time, I think, is ... eleven and a third.
Another questioner: ...

The Shaykh : I mean, after this question, do you allow us?
Another questioner : If Allah wills.

The Shaykh : May Allah reward you with good.

The questioner : The question relates to calling to Allah (Mighty and Majestic).

The Shaykh : (Glorified and Exalted is He).