A young man proposed to one of his female relatives, and the marriage contract was concluded, and the wedding was postponed for one year until this wife graduated from her studies, and the question is if he visits his wife’s family
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The questioner : The questioner from Buraydah in the Qassim region, M M A, says he mentions that a young man proposed to one of his female relatives and the marriage contract was concluded.
The Shaykh : Yes, indeed.
The questioner : And the wedding was postponed for one year until this wife graduated from her studies.
The Shaykh : Yes.
The questioner : And the question says, if I visit my wife’s family, do I greet her mother, meaning, more precisely, do I kiss her head as is customary, or do I wait until after consummation, knowing that her mother does not allow me to be close to her?
The Shaykh : Yes. When a man contracts a woman, her mother becomes one of his mahram (a relative one may not marry), even if he has not consummated the marriage. And on this basis, we say to the brother questioner, there is nothing wrong with you visiting your wife’s family and sitting with her mother alone, and shaking her hand and kissing her head and forehead, because you are one of her mahram now, as Allah Blessed and Exalted is He said:[An-Nisa 4:23]. Yes.
The questioner : May Allah reward you.
The Shaykh : Yes, indeed.
The questioner : And the wedding was postponed for one year until this wife graduated from her studies.
The Shaykh : Yes.
The questioner : And the question says, if I visit my wife’s family, do I greet her mother, meaning, more precisely, do I kiss her head as is customary, or do I wait until after consummation, knowing that her mother does not allow me to be close to her?
The Shaykh : Yes. When a man contracts a woman, her mother becomes one of his mahram (a relative one may not marry), even if he has not consummated the marriage. And on this basis, we say to the brother questioner, there is nothing wrong with you visiting your wife’s family and sitting with her mother alone, and shaking her hand and kissing her head and forehead, because you are one of her mahram now, as Allah Blessed and Exalted is He said:
Prohibited to you [for marriage] are your mothers, your daughters, your sisters, your father's sisters, your mother's sisters, your brother's daughters, your sister's daughters, your [milk] mothers who nursed you, your sisters through nursing, your wives' mothers
حُرِّمَت عَلَيكُم أُمَّهاتُكُم وَبَناتُكُم وَأَخَواتُكُم وَعَمّاتُكُم وَخالاتُكُم وَبَناتُ الأَخِ وَبَناتُ الأُختِ وَأُمَّهاتُكُمُ اللّاتي أَرضَعنَكُم وَأَخَواتُكُم مِنَ الرَّضاعَةِ وَأُمَّهاتُ نِسائِكُمThe questioner : May Allah reward you.