Continuation of the discussion on the verse: “You will not find a people who believe in Allah and the Last Day having affection for those who oppose Allah and His Messenger…”

The Shaykh : The first verse: It is no problem, I do not blame you for asking, no, but I say it is not befitting for you and those like you to have an opinion on the understanding of a verse unless they first ask the people of knowledge. Here, those who oppose Allah and His Messenger, the intended meaning is the polytheists, so it is not intended to mean the son, for example, whom I used as an example of one who leaves the prayer…

The questioner : I do not mean the child, the son, but a person of legal age.

The Shaykh : No, I mean with you, meaning the one who leaves the prayer. I am saying what you intend, the son. I did not mean the small child. You have just reminded me of a hadith, and one thing reminds one of another. A man came to the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) and said: O Messenger of Allah, let me ride, meaning he wanted a mount to carry him, he had a journey ahead of him. He said to the one in charge of mounting: , he said to him: O Messenger of Allah, and will the offspring of the she-camel carry me? He said to him: - laughingThe Shaykh : (may Allah have mercy on him) - so the word "son" in the Arabic language does not mean its meaning of a non-adult boy…

The questioner : The common usage currently…

The Shaykh : It is no problem, it is no problem, perhaps I was overcome by the fiqh of hadith, so I said "son" meaning the son, even if he is of legal age. And what is intended here is those who oppose Allah, meaning they enmity Him and declare their enmity, so it is not befitting for the Muslim to have affection and favor for these people, so there is no issue in it. But if there is a father who is afflicted with a son, I repeat the word "son" and let us say now for clarification, an adult son of legal age who does not pray, then it is not befitting to enmity him, but it is befitting to advise him, and to consistently direct and remind him, and not to be like the fathers who do today, leaving the sons, as they say: they let the rope hang loose for them, and leave them to walk and go east and west, and walk as they please, and go to the cinemas and not come back until midnight and so on, this is not befitting. And this does not mean that what? They enmity him and fight him as… that he should care for the son and always strive to direct him, as you know from the saying of Allah the Exalted: and the other verse: , what does it mean? Pray, and this command also, do not say: By Allah, I commanded him and it was of no benefit, no…

The questioner : ؟

The Shaykh : Be patient with the prayer, of course, So the point is that the command should be repeated by the father to his son until he feels that this son was affected by his father's advice, but it is not befitting to enmity him.

The questioner : I did not mean this, it could be a relative or a friend or a neighbor…

The Shaykh : It is no problem, if it is the son - may Allah bless you - then the others are even more so.

The questioner : Yesterday the brother asked a question about the aunt, she did a wrong and it was decided to boycott her…

The Shaykh : No, this is another matter, you are not asking - may Allah bless you - about the boycott, you are asking about the verse of affection and favor, the boycott is a disciplinary means in Islam, the boycott in Islam is a disciplinary means, I said to the man: Yes, you did not do a good deed; because our Lord says: So if the son commits zina, and the mother approved him in the zina and did not forbid it, and this son, I do not know what he is to her, your aunt?

The questioner: Yes.

The Shaykh : Ah, so she approved him too, it means he is going to harm the Muslims as the Jews were not harmed, So the boycott is an educational means legislated by the Messenger (peace be upon him) with the best of the best of the Companions of the Messenger (peace be upon him), and they are the three who were left behind, do you know this story, perhaps in the Noble Qur'an.
Where the Messenger (peace be upon him) announced that he would set out for the expedition and jihad, so three of them delayed and were preoccupied, and indeed they lagged behind, and one of them was named Ka'b ibn Malik, who was among the best of the Companions of the Messenger (peace be upon him). After the Messenger returned from the expedition, he regretted what he had done, and every day he said: today I will go and today I will go, and he was preoccupied. When the Messenger (peace be upon him) returned and the laggards came, and among them were many hypocrites, each one presented an excuse, and the Messenger accepted the excuse. He said about himself, this is when I came to the Messenger (peace be upon him), he said: "By Allah, O Messenger of Allah, I know that I was given eloquence and speech, that I am able to say as the others said, but I also know that I fear that I will say contrary to the truth, and Allah (Blessed and Exalted is He) will expose me." So the man admitted that he had lagged behind, so he ordered his wife to go to her home, the home of her people, and he ordered the Companions to boycott him and two others who had lagged behind, and so for fifty days. And this man, Ka'b ibn Malik, narrates the psychological state he was afflicted with, as Allah (Mighty and Majestic) expressed: meaning he was about to climb a mountain and throw himself off, every time he saw a person, "Peace be upon you, peace be upon you," no one returned his greeting; because the Messenger ordered the boycott, so this boycott was the cause of purifying the souls of these people and their regret for what they did in lagging behind the Messenger (peace and blessings be upon him), until Allah (Mighty and Majestic) sent down repentance for them. So the boycott is a prescribed and desirable matter in reality, but there is precision in it and it must be placed in its proper place, and people also here, many matters are between excess and deficiency. The name of the boycott today is not mentioned on the tongues of preachers and teachers, why? Because I say, in many cases when I am asked, I say, my brother, if you boycott all the people, it means you go to what? You withdraw to the top of a mountain or do not mix with people, but you need to be patient, you need to be patient, but when the relationship is between a person and a person who is his close one, then here the boycott has an effect, but boycotting all the people, this is not possible, therefore he (peace be upon him) said: .