What is the ruling on being just between children (the son and the daughter) in matters such as leaving the house and financial maintenance?
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The questioner : Regarding being just between children, the male is not like the female in many matters. One of them is that the male likes to leave the house and has his own necessities, whereas the original state for the female is the home, whether she is young or old. So the boy likes to leave the house, as I mentioned, while the girl’s original state is otherwise. So, is it obligatory in such matters related to upbringing to be equal between males and females in this regard?
The Shaykh : I did not understand from your words anything other than equality in upbringing, and I think there is something else you did not mention.
The questioner : Regarding leaving the house, upbringing, of course, and giving gifts or honoring, and taking the child out.
The Shaykh : That is what I was afraid of; it is not a matter of upbringing.
The questioner : Financial maintenance. Now, the issue of leaving the house...
The Shaykh : That is self-evident.
The questioner : Yes.
The Shaykh : This difference is based on the Shari'ah.
The questioner : So this is the original ruling?
The Shaykh : Yes, but I think there is something behind the veil.
The questioner : Regarding financial maintenance, I mean, or something?
The Shaykh: Yes.
The questioner : No, there is nothing wrong with it.
The Shaykh : Is the one who goes out the one who needs more spending?
The questioner : Of course, he needs it.
The Shaykh : And for that reason, I was surprised that he stopped at the issue of leaving the house. Leaving the house has its implications.
The questioner : I mean, perhaps if he is walking... he buys something.
The Shaykh : I mean, do I want to ask, or do you?
The questioner : No, things may follow it, there is no doubt.
The Shaykh : Okay, but you did not touch on the most important point; you touched on the important point, and the answer to the important point is known.
The questioner : Our Shaykh... it may be...
The Shaykh :[Ali 'Imran 3:36]
The questioner : Yes.
The Shaykh : But what follows from this leaving the house is what needs to be asked about.
The questioner : It is true, but these cases may be rare sometimes and with some people...
The Shaykh : Yes, just leaving the house, the answer is known.
The questioner : May Allah reward you with good... but we benefit from another point.
The Shaykh : Yes.
The questioner : Regarding financial maintenance, if things follow it...
The Shaykh : If this financial maintenance is not related to the fact that he is male or that he went out, then equality must be observed. For example, his going out may require a fare, but his going out may not require a fare; it may require buying some of what is called here "sweets" or fruits or sugar, or so on. Here, equality is required, and there, equality is not required. The issue is that one should take this into consideration.
The questioner : ...
The Shaykh : Okay, the time has come.Abu Layla ؟
Abu Layla : It has come, O Shaykh.
Another questioner : ...
The Shaykh : No, we are following the current time, but we were at ten o'clock just now. It is sufficient, if Allah wills.
The Shaykh : I did not understand from your words anything other than equality in upbringing, and I think there is something else you did not mention.
The questioner : Regarding leaving the house, upbringing, of course, and giving gifts or honoring, and taking the child out.
The Shaykh : That is what I was afraid of; it is not a matter of upbringing.
The questioner : Financial maintenance. Now, the issue of leaving the house...
The Shaykh : That is self-evident.
The questioner : Yes.
The Shaykh : This difference is based on the Shari'ah.
The questioner : So this is the original ruling?
The Shaykh : Yes, but I think there is something behind the veil.
The questioner : Regarding financial maintenance, I mean, or something?
The Shaykh: Yes.
The questioner : No, there is nothing wrong with it.
The Shaykh : Is the one who goes out the one who needs more spending?
The questioner : Of course, he needs it.
The Shaykh : And for that reason, I was surprised that he stopped at the issue of leaving the house. Leaving the house has its implications.
The questioner : I mean, perhaps if he is walking... he buys something.
The Shaykh : I mean, do I want to ask, or do you?
The questioner : No, things may follow it, there is no doubt.
The Shaykh : Okay, but you did not touch on the most important point; you touched on the important point, and the answer to the important point is known.
The questioner : Our Shaykh... it may be...
The Shaykh :
And the male is not like the female.
و ليس الذكر كالأنثىThe questioner : Yes.
The Shaykh : But what follows from this leaving the house is what needs to be asked about.
The questioner : It is true, but these cases may be rare sometimes and with some people...
The Shaykh : Yes, just leaving the house, the answer is known.
The questioner : May Allah reward you with good... but we benefit from another point.
The Shaykh : Yes.
The questioner : Regarding financial maintenance, if things follow it...
The Shaykh : If this financial maintenance is not related to the fact that he is male or that he went out, then equality must be observed. For example, his going out may require a fare, but his going out may not require a fare; it may require buying some of what is called here "sweets" or fruits or sugar, or so on. Here, equality is required, and there, equality is not required. The issue is that one should take this into consideration.
The questioner : ...
The Shaykh : Okay, the time has come.Abu Layla ؟
Abu Layla : It has come, O Shaykh.
Another questioner : ...
The Shaykh : No, we are following the current time, but we were at ten o'clock just now. It is sufficient, if Allah wills.
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