Regarding justice between sons and daughters, as you know, the requirements for a son are greater than those for a daughter; perhaps we buy him a car, perhaps we marry him off, perhaps

The questioner : Regarding justice between sons and daughters, as you know, the requirements for a son are greater than those for a daughter; perhaps we buy him a car, perhaps we marry him off, perhaps we give him many things that we do not give the daughter, and the daughter is in the house. Is this justice?

The Shaykh : I will tell you something.

The questioner: Go ahead.

The Shaykh : Refine your question to what is more important, and thereby you will understand the answer regarding the important matter. It is not prescribed, nor is it logical, to equalize spending between male children, because the one who has reached the age of youth, for example, and the one who is still an infant in the cradle, means this one costs many times more than the other, and between them are ranks and degrees, and so on. I think the answer is understood a fortiori regarding the difference between males and females. But the truth is, the matter also requires some mindfulness of Allah and fear of Allah (Mighty and Majestic). It may be said: For example, the one who gives the son an outing or an allowance that he does not give the daughter, because the son goes out and the daughter stays in her place. But this was in times other than this one, of course. As for today, the real and the false have become mixed. The important thing is that the giving, which is a gift, should not clearly distinguish between males and females, with the condition we mentioned earlier: if you have a male child and a female child of similar ages, it is not permissible to prefer the male because he is male over the female because she is female. In a gift, you must equalize, as he (peace and blessings be upon him) said: ; because the cause we mentioned earlier does not apply here. It is clear, if Allah wills.

The questioner : Likewise, my Shaykh, if he wants to divide wealth during his lifetime, and he has a lot of wealth and wants to divide it during his lifetime, the hadith of 'Imran applies here.

The Shaykh : This is a gift.

The questioner : Yes, meaning he gives to the young one as to the old one, and to the male as to the female.

Another questioner : Like this.

Another questioner : During his lifetime.

The Shaykh : The ruling of inheritance does not apply during the lifetime of the deceased; because this occurs after what? Death. But a gift given while he is still alive, here applies. But in inheritance: It is necessary to distinguish between the two matters.