What is your advice for a woman whose husband marries another and who asks him for a divorce?
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The questioner : May Allah reward you with good. A questioner asks: What is your advice for the first wife who becomes angry with her husband when he marries another and asks for a divorce because of that?
The Shaykh : My advice to the woman whose husband marries another is that she should be patient, seek reward from Allah, and say to her husband, "May Allah bless you and her, and unite you both in goodness," because this is in the interest of having many children, which is a benefit, and it is one of the matters in which the Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings be upon him) encouraged us. He said: So let her be patient and seek reward, for she does not know that perhaps Allah will make this last wife like her daughter in serving her and considering her feelings. The husband must be just between his wives. If she is a virgin, he stays with her for seven days, then he divides his time. If she is a previously married woman, he stays with her for three days, then he divides his time. He must be just between his women. If he leans toward one of them, the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) said: Sunan Abi Dawud 2133Sahih (Al-Albani) As for her asking for a divorce because he married another, there is a hadith from the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him and his family) So she should be patient and seek reward. It has reached us that some people married, and the first wives became angry, but he took them with his broad-mindedness and long temper, and in the end, they became like two sisters, or they became like two sisters. Yes.
The questioner : May Allah reward you with good. He asks: Is it permissible to marry with the intention of divorcing? And if that is permissible, what is the difference between it and the marriage of pleasure?
The Shaykh : This issue needs elaboration, and our brother Abu 'Abd al-'Aziz says, "I give you a quarter of an hour," and now a quarter of an hour has passed from your break. Yes, let us limit ourselves to what has already been said.
The questioner : The Fajr lesson
The Shaykh : And if it is decreed that we attend Fajr, that is better. Yes, we will try.
The questioner : He says: This question is important, O Shaykh, if you would answer it.
The Shaykh : Perhaps another hour, O Abu 'Abd al-'Aziz. You, if Allah wills... and you are married with the intention of divorcing. Yes.
The questioner : ...
The Shaykh : Allah knows best.
The questioner : How many days will you be teaching with us, O honorable Shaykh?
The Shaykh : Allah knows best. Haha. In my opinion, we will try, if Allah wills. We will try, we will try.
The questioner : May Allah reward you with good and grant you abundant reward, and may Allah send prayers upon...
The Shaykh : Glory be to You, O Allah, our Lord, and praise be to You. I bear witness that there is no deity but You. I seek Your forgiveness and turn to You in repentance.
The Shaykh : My advice to the woman whose husband marries another is that she should be patient, seek reward from Allah, and say to her husband, "May Allah bless you and her, and unite you both in goodness," because this is in the interest of having many children, which is a benefit, and it is one of the matters in which the Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings be upon him) encouraged us. He said:
Marry the loving and fertile women
تزوجوا الودود الولودWhen a man has two wives and he is inclined to one of them, he will come on the Day of resurrection with a side hanging down.
من كانت له امرأتان فمال إلى إحداهما جاء يوم القيامة وشقه مائلWhoever asks her husband for a divorce without any valid reason, the fragrance of Paradise is forbidden to her.
أن من سألت زوجها الطلاق من غير ما بأس فحرام عليها رائحة الجنةThe questioner : May Allah reward you with good. He asks: Is it permissible to marry with the intention of divorcing? And if that is permissible, what is the difference between it and the marriage of pleasure?
The Shaykh : This issue needs elaboration, and our brother Abu 'Abd al-'Aziz says, "I give you a quarter of an hour," and now a quarter of an hour has passed from your break. Yes, let us limit ourselves to what has already been said.
The questioner : The Fajr lesson
The Shaykh : And if it is decreed that we attend Fajr, that is better. Yes, we will try.
The questioner : He says: This question is important, O Shaykh, if you would answer it.
The Shaykh : Perhaps another hour, O Abu 'Abd al-'Aziz. You, if Allah wills... and you are married with the intention of divorcing. Yes.
The questioner : ...
The Shaykh : Allah knows best.
The questioner : How many days will you be teaching with us, O honorable Shaykh?
The Shaykh : Allah knows best. Haha. In my opinion, we will try, if Allah wills. We will try, we will try.
The questioner : May Allah reward you with good and grant you abundant reward, and may Allah send prayers upon...
The Shaykh : Glory be to You, O Allah, our Lord, and praise be to You. I bear witness that there is no deity but You. I seek Your forgiveness and turn to You in repentance.