Explaining the ruling on the mu'takif leaving the mosque. (Categories of leaving) with mention of some of the etiquettes of i'tikaf.

The Shaykh : Leaving is of three categories: the first is leaving that is permissible in all cases; the second is leaving that is forbidden in all cases; and the third is leaving that is permissible under a condition. The leaving that is permissible in all cases is when a person goes out for what is necessary for him religiously or naturally. The mu'takif goes out for what is necessary for him religiously or what? Naturally. An example of the first: if the mu'takif becomes in a state of major ritual impurity, here he must go out for what? What?
The student: ...

The Shaykh : To perform the full ritual bath. This is necessary, naturally or religiously? Religiously. So if he says, "I will not go out, I will perform dry ablution with clean earth," we say it is not permissible. Water is available, so go out and perform the full ritual bath. Okay. And if a person goes out for the need of urination or defecation, is it permissible or not? Permissible?
The student: Yes.

The Shaykh : This is necessary naturally. A person must urinate and defecate. Okay. If he goes out to eat, if you say it is permissible, we say that is wrong. And if you say it is not permissible, we say that is wrong. Please, come, stand up.
The student: ... .

The Shaykh : What is the condition?
The student: ... .

The Shaykh : That he does not find anyone to bring it to him. Rest. Leaving to eat and drink is permissible if he does not find anyone to bring it to him. If he does find someone, he does not go out, because there is no need to go out, and the man has obligated himself to remain in the mosque. Okay, that is sufficient. May Allah reward you with good...
Okay, the second category is the one that is forbidden in all cases, for which it is not permissible for the mu'takif to go out, whether he made a condition or not. An example is a merchant who has a shop. So when it is the late morning, he does not go out to the shop because he finds no people; everyone is sleeping. In the afternoon, people come, so he goes out to the shop to sell and buy. Until when? Until when? Three o'clock in the morning. Okay, is it permissible for him to go out for this purpose or not? Yes.
The student: ... .

The Shaykh : It is not permissible, whether he made the condition or not, because this contradicts i'tikaf entirely. Another example: a young man who is observing i'tikaf and recently got married. Every time he feels the need, he goes to his wife to enjoy her. Is it permissible or not?
The student: It is not permissible.

The Shaykh : O people of goodness, have mercy on the young man. Yes, heh, yes. What is the solution? The solution, as the brother said, is that he does not observe i'tikaf, and his going to his wife is better than i'tikaf. Note, Glory be to Allah the Great, meaning his going to his wife, if he is a young man and needs intimacy, is better than i'tikaf. The author of Zad al-Mustaqn said: "His doing it, meaning intercourse with desire, is better than voluntary acts of worship". And when the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him and his family) said: meaning the man when he comes to his wife, it is charity . The Companions (may Allah be pleased with them) did not leave anything that needed asking about without asking about it. And what is the answer? If he placed this desire in the forbidden, would he bear a sin or not?
The student: ...

The Shaykh : He would bear a sin. He said: Praise be to Allah. So I hope you repeat the example. A young man recently married, so during his i'tikaf, every night he goes to his wife and stays with her. Is it permissible or not?
The student: It is not permissible.

The Shaykh : Okay, it is not permissible. If he said during his i'tikaf, "O Lord, I make a condition with You that I go out to my wife, for You are the Most Merciful of the merciful, and I am recently married," is the condition valid or not? Valid?
The student: ...

The Shaykh : It is not valid, because this contradicts i'tikaf entirely. Allah the Exalted said: So if he says, "What is the solution?" we direct him to the brothers who answered. What is the solution? That he does not observe i'tikaf. He remains all night and day, and naturally the fasting man does not come to his wife except for kissing or something similar. How many categories is this? How many categories did we mention?
The student: Two categories.

The Shaykh : Okay, the third is what is not intended religiously but is not obligatory. So if he made a condition for it and it does not distract him from i'tikaf, there is no harm; otherwise, there is. For example, visiting a sick person. A person has a sick relative and wants to observe i'tikaf, but he likes to check on this sick person. We say, praise be to Allah, make a condition with your Lord, Mighty and Majestic, that you go out to visit this sick person. That you go out to visit this sick person. Is it permissible or not? Permissible. Why?
The student: He made a condition.

The Shaykh : No, not because he made a condition, but why is it permissible while he is going out of the place? Because this is a religious objective. A religious objective, not idle play or amusement. So if someone asks: "What is the evidence that a person can make a condition with his Lord like this condition?" We say, praise be to Allah, the evidence is the hadith of Dhab'ah bint al-Zubayr. She wanted to perform Hajj. She wanted to perform Hajj, so she complained to the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him and his family) and said, "O Messenger of Allah, I want to perform Hajj, and I find myself ill." He said to her: My place, meaning my place of exiting from Hajj, is where I am detained . Complete. Okay.
Many of the brothers ask: Is it permissible for the mu'takif to talk on the phone while it is with him in his pocket? What is the answer? Yes or no? No?
The student: ... .

The Shaykh : It is with him in his pocket, he talks, he says to his family, "Fix such and such," "Wait for so-and-so, he will come," or he has a patient who is not severely ill, so he asks. Is it permissible or not? Permissible. O brothers, it is permissible to talk on the phone just like talking face-to-face, there is no difference. But note that we tell him: do not talk too much, neither by phone nor face-to-face. You are now in worship; you have obligated yourself to stay in the mosque for worship. Do not talk too much.
Okay, there are some mu'takifs, among the young and not young, who make i'tikaf a time for banter and, as they say, chit-chat, what came and what went, and you find them as if they are on a picnic. Did these people come with the spirit of i'tikaf or not? Absolutely not. They said to us, "Why do you restrict us? Why do you restrict us?" Is not Safiyyah, the wife of the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him and his family), ? You are restricting us, you are severe. What do we say? We say, praise be to Allah, if the wife comes and talks to you, there is no objection, but not always. And the wife's talk has a benefit. What is the benefit? The benefit is known only by the married. Most of those in front of me are married. What is the benefit of talking to the wife? If you are silent out of hesitation, that is wrong, because I asked you, you must answer me. And if you are silent because you do not feel the effects of this conversation, then your cohabitation with your wives is not sound. Okay, please.
The student: ... .

The Shaykh : Yes, yes, be patient, man, for a long time. What? Yes, you did well. This plants love. Rest. It plants love and affection between the spouses. And Allah, Mighty and Majestic, said: This plants affection and intimacy between the spouses. And look at the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) and follow him. He helps his family, peace and blessings be upon him. And when he wanted to perform the full ritual bath, . And this brings great intimacy, that the husband and wife perform the full ritual bath. And naturally, the full ritual bath must not be done with clothes on them; they perform the full ritual bath in one vessel, because this brings affection. O brothers, whoever has not tried it, let him try, and he will find that there is a great benefit in it. And intimacy between spouses is among the happiest things in life. Ask those whom Allah has united with their wives how they are living in the happiest life. And those between whom and their families is what? Some coldness. So look at what it becomes for him every day and every morning. May Allah reward you. I hope Allah will free me from you, and he says, "I hope Allah will free you from me." He frees me from you. Each one curses the other, and they tire people out, they tire the judges out, and they tire their relatives out. For this reason, the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him and his family), who is the wisest of the children of Adam, said: "Yafrik" means he hates. Not everyone has things going well for them, but he compares and contrasts. And therefore I urge my brothers, male and female, to patience, for the continuation of a state is impossible, and to endurance, and to seeking intimacy, so that the spouses are happy.
Okay, does the mu'takif in a mosque other than the Grand Mosque go out early for Jumu'ah, or does he not go out until the imam's arrival is near?
The student: ... .

The Shaykh : Yes, we do not say go out early, because going early is a recommended practice of the prayer. And since you are permitted the prayer, you are permitted its recommended practices. So you may go out from when the sun rises to the Grand Mosque. Why? Because this is among the recommended practices of the Friday prayer. Go out from when the sun sets, perform the full ritual bath, wear the best clothes you have, and go to Jumu'ah. And when you finish from Jumu'ah, do not stay; go to your mosque where you were observing i'tikaf immediately. This is what comes to my mind now regarding the discussion of i'tikaf. And we are now in debt to you. We are in debt to you with three debts. Who remembers them? Three debts you have on me. One, two, three, four.
The student: ... .

The Shaykh : Yes.
The student: ... .

The Shaykh : Okay, the first debt is the discussion of the saying of Allah the Exalted: to the end of the two verses. You did well. The second.
The student: ... .

The Shaykh : Yes, the creed. It appears we have completed the discussion on the creed. We have finished what is sufficient, if Allah wills. Yes, sit down. What?
The student: ... .

The Shaykh : His saying, the Exalted: The end of the third. No, behind you, if you please. What?
The student: ... .

The Shaykh : May Allah bless you. As for the first debt, it is heavy, heavy in quantity and quality, so it is deferred. It is deferred on the condition that there is no riba (usury or interest) in it. You say, "It is not deferred except with an increase." As for the second and third, I hope Allah will help us with them tonight.