We have a custom, and that is when a person wants to get married, he sends cards to the people he wants to attend the wedding, and this invited person comes on the day of the wedding and
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The questioner : He has a second question, saying: O honorable Shaykh, we have a custom. When a person wants to get married, he sends cards to the people he wants to attend the wedding. This invited person comes on the day of the wedding, then eats from the wedding feast of this newlywed, then he is given two hundred riyals, knowing that this is called *rifd*. Then the wedding of the one who was invited takes place, and he pays two hundred riyals, so he sends him a card, just as he sent him an attendance card. Then he comes to the wedding and eats from the wedding feast of the newlywed, then he is given two hundred riyals, as if it is an exchange. Is this permissible?
The Shaykh : This is a custom that has become established in some countries.
The questioner : Yes.
The Shaykh : When a man gets married, his companions, relatives, and acquaintances support him with whatever is easy for them. So when the one who supported him gets married, this first newlywed supports him with whatever is easy for him as well, and they do not intend an exchange by this.
The questioner : Yes.
The Shaykh : Therefore, if the one who was supported did not get married, he would not take anything from the husband. So the matter is one of customary gifts that has become established, and it is not a matter of buying and selling. Accordingly, it is permissible, because the original ruling regarding what people customarily do is that it is lawful until evidence appears prohibiting it. The original ruling regarding tangible things is that they are lawful until evidence appears prohibiting them. The original ruling regarding acts of worship is that they are prohibited until evidence from the Shari'ah appears, meaning that they are prescribed. These three rules are something a student of knowledge should encompass and understand.
The original ruling regarding customs is that they are lawful until evidence appears prohibiting them.
The questioner : Yes.
The Shaykh : The original ruling regarding tangible things, meaning objects.
The questioner : Yes.
The Shaykh : Is that they are lawful until evidence appears prohibiting them.
The original ruling regarding acts of worship is that they are prohibited until evidence from the Shari'ah appears, meaning that they are prescribed, due to the saying of the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him)Sahih Muslim 1718b and in another wording Sahih Muslim 1718a .
As for tangible things, the original ruling regarding them is that they are lawful, due to the saying of Allah the Exalted[Al-Baqarah 2:29] .
As for customs, it is because the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) saidSunan Ibn Majah 2521Sahih (Darussalam) and its implication is that what is in the Book of Allah is not invalid. It is also narrated from him that he said and customs are a type of conditions, so they are matters that people have followed and considered to be prevailing and dominant among them. So if no evidence indicates their prohibition, they are permissible. Yes.
The Shaykh : This is a custom that has become established in some countries.
The questioner : Yes.
The Shaykh : When a man gets married, his companions, relatives, and acquaintances support him with whatever is easy for them. So when the one who supported him gets married, this first newlywed supports him with whatever is easy for him as well, and they do not intend an exchange by this.
The questioner : Yes.
The Shaykh : Therefore, if the one who was supported did not get married, he would not take anything from the husband. So the matter is one of customary gifts that has become established, and it is not a matter of buying and selling. Accordingly, it is permissible, because the original ruling regarding what people customarily do is that it is lawful until evidence appears prohibiting it. The original ruling regarding tangible things is that they are lawful until evidence appears prohibiting them. The original ruling regarding acts of worship is that they are prohibited until evidence from the Shari'ah appears, meaning that they are prescribed. These three rules are something a student of knowledge should encompass and understand.
The original ruling regarding customs is that they are lawful until evidence appears prohibiting them.
The questioner : Yes.
The Shaykh : The original ruling regarding tangible things, meaning objects.
The questioner : Yes.
The Shaykh : Is that they are lawful until evidence appears prohibiting them.
The original ruling regarding acts of worship is that they are prohibited until evidence from the Shari'ah appears, meaning that they are prescribed, due to the saying of the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him)
He who did any act for which there is no sanction from our behalf, that is to be rejected.
من عمل عملا ليس عليه أمرنا فهو رد'A'isha reported Allah's Messenger (ﷺ) as saying: He who innovates things in our affairs for which there is no valid (reason) (commits sin) and these are to be rejected.
من أحدث في أمرنا هذا ما ليس منه فهو ردAs for tangible things, the original ruling regarding them is that they are lawful, due to the saying of Allah the Exalted
It is He who created for you all of that which is on the earth
هُوَ الَّذي خَلَقَ لَكُم ما فِي الأَرضِ جَميعًاAs for customs, it is because the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) said