Does divorce take effect in extreme anger or not, if I did not intend to divorce and could not control myself?
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The questioner : I work in Riyadh, Shaykh, and my wife is here. So, my wife and I went to Riyadh to visit my brother, and my brother’s wife hurt me and uttered ugly words to me. So I said: “Go back, and so-and-so is divorced,” because she is the wife of my wife’s aunt. I wanted to frighten this woman so that she would go back and stop her harm toward me. So she went back, but then she spoke to me again and uttered words to me. I lost my composure; I was afraid that I would hit this woman or that something would happen to her from me. So I said: “She is divorced.”
The Shaykh : Her aunt?
The questioner : Yes, yes. My nerves broke. And I, Shaykh, did not intend divorce. My intention was to stop this woman’s harm toward me, because my wife is this woman’s aunt?
The Shaykh : Your divorce, your last divorce, when the woman angered you.
The questioner : Yes.
The Shaykh : You pronounced the last divorce while you were in extreme anger and could not control yourself?
The questioner : Yes, Shaykh, yes. But after that... this woman took back her words and sought refuge in Allah.
The Shaykh : The point is, answer my question.
The questioner : May Allah reward you.
The Shaykh : Were you unable to control yourself at that moment?
The questioner : Yes, O Shaykh.
The Shaykh : Then there is no divorce on you regarding your wife, and you owe no divorce. But I advise you not to be hasty in divorce; do not be hasty.
The questioner : May Allah reward you with good, Shaykh.
The Shaykh : The matter is resolved without haste.
The questioner : May Allah reward you with good.
The Shaykh : And as for this woman who says that she is harming you, if you are able to advise her, that is what is required. Otherwise, her husband should advise her, or her father, or someone similar to that. Yes.
The questioner : May Allah reward you with good, Shaykh.
The Shaykh : Her aunt?
The questioner : Yes, yes. My nerves broke. And I, Shaykh, did not intend divorce. My intention was to stop this woman’s harm toward me, because my wife is this woman’s aunt?
The Shaykh : Your divorce, your last divorce, when the woman angered you.
The questioner : Yes.
The Shaykh : You pronounced the last divorce while you were in extreme anger and could not control yourself?
The questioner : Yes, Shaykh, yes. But after that... this woman took back her words and sought refuge in Allah.
The Shaykh : The point is, answer my question.
The questioner : May Allah reward you.
The Shaykh : Were you unable to control yourself at that moment?
The questioner : Yes, O Shaykh.
The Shaykh : Then there is no divorce on you regarding your wife, and you owe no divorce. But I advise you not to be hasty in divorce; do not be hasty.
The questioner : May Allah reward you with good, Shaykh.
The Shaykh : The matter is resolved without haste.
The questioner : May Allah reward you with good.
The Shaykh : And as for this woman who says that she is harming you, if you are able to advise her, that is what is required. Otherwise, her husband should advise her, or her father, or someone similar to that. Yes.
The questioner : May Allah reward you with good, Shaykh.