If the maid has been raising a small disabled child for ten years and has become accustomed to him, is he considered forbidden to her?
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The questioner : If the maid has been raising a small disabled child, and she is Muslim, and has raised him since he was young, becoming accustomed to him and caring for him for a long period—washing him, feeding him, and looking after him for nearly ten years—does he become a mahram (a relative one may not marry) to her, such that it is permissible for her to greet him?
The Shaykh : If this woman is not married, it would be best for them to marry her to him so that she can do everything that would rectify this man’s situation. Perhaps Allah (Glorified and Exalted is He) will decree a child between them who will benefit them both.
As for if she is married, it is not possible for him to marry her. What I see is that they should seek an unmarried maid to marry to him, thereby achieving two benefits: the benefit of service and the benefit of pleasure, if he desires it.
The Shaykh : If this woman is not married, it would be best for them to marry her to him so that she can do everything that would rectify this man’s situation. Perhaps Allah (Glorified and Exalted is He) will decree a child between them who will benefit them both.
As for if she is married, it is not possible for him to marry her. What I see is that they should seek an unmarried maid to marry to him, thereby achieving two benefits: the benefit of service and the benefit of pleasure, if he desires it.