Some people say that if a woman leaves her house without intending to visit the grave and passes by the cemetery, she should stop and greet it. What is the answer to this hadith? That this

The questioner : May Allah reward you. Some people say that if a woman leaves her house and she did not intend to visit the grave, they say, "What is the evidence for this distinction?"

The Shaykh : Yes, this is the evidence.

The questioner : The hadith is clear that this woman was at the grave.

The Shaykh : She was at the grave; there is no doubt she was crying at the grave. So we say that this is what brings the evidences together, because the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) cursed those who visit graves and those who make mosques and lamps at them, and the curse does not occur except for what is forbidden. So we combine this hadith with the apparent meaning of the hadith of Aisha in Sahih Muslim, in which she asked what to say, meaning when she comes to the graves, and he said: and so on. And like this hadith, indicating that this hadith is not merely a visit to the cemetery, but rather because of what arose in her heart of inability to bear the calamity, she was drawn to her son's grave, meaning like one who does not choose this thing; it is not the ordinary visit where a person goes in order to be admonished and to remember the Hereafter.