The Book of Friday Prayer, the Two Festivals, the Prayer for Rain, the Eclipse Prayer, and Funerals-07a
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The reciter: And Abu Bakr ibn Abi Shaybah, Ibn Numayr, and Ishaq ibn Ibrahim all narrated from Ibn Uyaynah. Ibn Numayr said: Sufyan narrated from Ibn Abi Najih from his father from Ubayd ibn 'Umar. He said: Umm Salamah said: Mishkat al-Masabih 1744.
The Shaykh : However, weeping over a deceased person, if it is not deliberate and is natural, is permissible; indeed, it is a sign of a person's mercy. For this reason, the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) wept for his son Ibrahim and said:. As for deliberate, intentional weeping for which one prepares oneself, this is not prescribed. The Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) informed us that the deceased is tormented by the weeping of his family over him. Umm Salamah’s statement, "when a woman from the upper part of the city came," means from the high areas outside the city. Her statement, "to console me," means to share in the weeping over the deceased, from the word for consoling or helping. But the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) rebuked this woman with this statement: Sahih Muslim 922 He said it twice, so when Umm Salamah heard this statement, she restrained herself from weeping.
Umm Salama told that when Abu Salama died she said he had been a stranger in a strange land and that she would weep for him in a manner which would be talked of. She had made preparations for weeping and a woman who meant to assist her was on her way when she was met by God’s messenger who said, “Do you intend to bring the devil into a house from which God has twice driven him out?”(Abu Salama had emigrated both to Abyssinia and to Medina and this may be the reference here; or it may be explained as meaning that the devil was driven out first when he accepted Islam and secondly when he died as a Muslim) Umm Salama therefore refrained from weeping and did not weep. Muslim transmitted it.
لَمَّا مَاتَ أَبُو سَلَمَةَ، قُلْتُ: غَرِيبٌ وَفِي أَرْضِ غُرْبَةٍ، لَأَبْكِيَنَّهُ بُكَاءً يُتَحَدَّثُ عَنْهُ، فَكُنْتُ قَدْ تَهَيَّأْتُ لِلْبُكَاءِ عَلَيْهِ، إِذْ أَقَبَلَتِ امْرَأَةٌ مِنَ الصَّعِيدِ تُرِيدُ أَنْ تُسْعِدَنِي، فَاسْتَقْبَلَهَا رَسُولُ اللهِ صَلَّى اللهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ، وَقَالَ: أَتُرِيدِينَ أَنْ تُدْخِلِي الشَّيْطَانَ بَيْتًا أَخْرَجَهُ اللهُ مِنْهُ؟ مَرَّتَيْنِ، فَكَفَفْتُ عَنِ الْبُكَاءِ فَلَمْ أَبْكِThe Shaykh : However, weeping over a deceased person, if it is not deliberate and is natural, is permissible; indeed, it is a sign of a person's mercy. For this reason, the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) wept for his son Ibrahim and said: