He says in his letter: What is the supplication that a Muslim recites, or with which he supplicates, on the day he enters upon his wife, meaning before he engages in any act, since I know that he says certain words at the beginning, but I do not know these words?
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The questioner : He says in his letter: What is the supplication that a Muslim recites, or with which he supplicates, on the day he enters upon his wife, meaning before he engages in any act, since I know that he says certain words at the beginning, but I do not know these words?
The Shaykh : Praise be to Allah, Lord of the worlds, and may peace and blessings be upon our Prophet Muhammad, and upon his family and all his Companions. It is recommended that when a man enters upon his wife for the first time, he should hold the front of her head and say: “O Allah, I ask You for her goodness and the goodness of what You created her with, and I seek refuge in You from her evil and the evil of what You created her with.” And when he intends to have intercourse with her, let him say: “In the name of Allah, O Allah, keep Satan away from us, and keep Satan away from what You have provided for us.”
And this invocation of the Name is said every time he intends to have intercourse with his wife, whether that is on the wedding night or after it, because the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) said: So this invocation and this supplication are among the means of preventing Satan from harming the child. Yes.
The questioner : His question is that many people say in this situation that the opportunity is not suitable for the invocation, and so on, because in this state a person often forgets or neglects it. So what is the difference between these two statements?
The Shaykh : It is recommended for a person to always prioritize reason over emotion.
The questioner : Yes.
The Shaykh : The entire religion is about controlling the self and its impulsiveness, whether it is the impulsiveness of joy or the impulsiveness of sadness and grief. A person should not allow his joy to cause him to forget what he should do or say, nor should his sadness overwhelm him to the point that he leaves what is obligatory upon him or falls into what is forbidden to him. It is obligatory for a person to always be governed by his reason. When a person governs himself with reason and approaches matters with seriousness and deliberation, he is able to say or do what is prescribed in that matter.
The questioner : Yes.
The Shaykh : Yes.
The Shaykh : Praise be to Allah, Lord of the worlds, and may peace and blessings be upon our Prophet Muhammad, and upon his family and all his Companions. It is recommended that when a man enters upon his wife for the first time, he should hold the front of her head and say: “O Allah, I ask You for her goodness and the goodness of what You created her with, and I seek refuge in You from her evil and the evil of what You created her with.” And when he intends to have intercourse with her, let him say: “In the name of Allah, O Allah, keep Satan away from us, and keep Satan away from what You have provided for us.”
And this invocation of the Name is said every time he intends to have intercourse with his wife, whether that is on the wedding night or after it, because the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) said:
If any one of you, when he goes to his wife, says: “In the name of Allah, O Allah, keep Satan away from us, and keep Satan away from what You have provided for us,” then if a child is destined to be born between them, Satan will never harm him.
لو أن أحدكم إذا أتى أهله فقال: بسم الله، اللهم جنبنا الشيطان وجنب الشيطان ما رزقتنا فإنه إن يُقدّر بينهما ولد لا يضرّه الشيطان أبداًThe questioner : His question is that many people say in this situation that the opportunity is not suitable for the invocation, and so on, because in this state a person often forgets or neglects it. So what is the difference between these two statements?
The Shaykh : It is recommended for a person to always prioritize reason over emotion.
The questioner : Yes.
The Shaykh : The entire religion is about controlling the self and its impulsiveness, whether it is the impulsiveness of joy or the impulsiveness of sadness and grief. A person should not allow his joy to cause him to forget what he should do or say, nor should his sadness overwhelm him to the point that he leaves what is obligatory upon him or falls into what is forbidden to him. It is obligatory for a person to always be governed by his reason. When a person governs himself with reason and approaches matters with seriousness and deliberation, he is able to say or do what is prescribed in that matter.
The questioner : Yes.
The Shaykh : Yes.