Reading from the author's text with commentary and collation of manuscripts: "And visiting graves is permissible in general, even the graves of disbelievers

The reader: "And visiting graves is permissible in general, even the graves of disbelievers, for in Sahih Muslim, from Abu Hurayrah, it is said: He said (peace and blessings be upon him):

I sought permission to beg forgiveness for my mother, but He did not grant it to me.

استأذنت ربي أن أستغفر لأمي فلم يأذن لي

Sahih Muslim 976a

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The Shaykh : Allah is the Greatest.
The reader: "

I sought permission from Him to visit her grave, and He granted it (permission) to me.

واستأذنته أن أزور قبرها فأذن لي

Sahih Muslim 976a

. And in it, from him, it is said:

the Prophet visited his mother’s grave and wept and caused those around him to weep. He then said, "I asked my Lord's permission to pray for forgiveness for her, but I was not allowed

زار النبي صلى الله عليه وسلم قبر أمه، فبكى وأبكى من حوله، فقال : استأذنت ربي أن أستغفر لها فلم يأذن لي

Mishkat al-Masabih 1763

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The Shaykh : In my copy: "so He did not grant it to me," is it with an alif or a waw? Yes.
The reader: "

and I sought permission to visit her grave and it was granted to me so visit the graves, for that makes you mindful of death.

واستأذنته في أن أزور قبرها فأذن لي فزوروا القبور فإنها تذكر الموت

Sahih Muslim 976b

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And in Sahih Muslim, from Buraydah, that the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) said:

I forbade you to visit graves, but you may now visit them

نهيتكم عن زيارة القبور فزوروها

Sunan Abi Dawud 3235Sahih (Al-Albani)

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And in a narration by Ahmad and al-Nasa'i:

but now whoever want to visit them, let him do so, but do not utter anything which is not suitable.

فمن أراد أن يزور فليزر ولا تقولوا هَجرًا

Sunan an-Nasa'i 2033Sahih (Darussalam)

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And Ahmad narrated from 'Ali ibn Abi Talib (may Allah be pleased with him) "

The Shaykh : "Hujran" with a dammah; "hujr" means evil speech. Do you have it mentioned?
The reader: I have it mentioned, O Shaykh.

The Shaykh : Yes, and what does it say?
The reader: It says: "And 'hujr' with a dammah is ugly speech. Al-Shafi'i said: "And that is like supplicating with woe and destruction and wailing" .

The Shaykh : Evil.
The reader: "And Ahmad narrated from 'Ali ibn Abi Talib (may Allah be pleased with him) that the Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings be upon him) said:

I used to forbid you to visit the graves, but now visit them, for they remind you of the Hereafter

إني كنت نهيتكم عن زيارة القبور فزوروها، فإنها تذكركم الآخرة

Musnad Ahmad 1236, 1237Sahih, because of corroborating evidence; this is a da'eef isnad because of the weakness of Ali bin Zaid and Rabee'ah bin an-Nabighah and his father are unknown], Sahih because of corroborating eviden (Darussalam)

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Thus, the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) permitted visiting them after the prohibition, and he explained the reason by saying that they remind one of death and the abode of the Hereafter, and he gave a general permission for visiting the grave of a Muslim and a disbeliever.
The cause for which this wording was revealed necessitates the inclusion of the disbeliever, and the reason—which is the remembrance of death and the Hereafter—exists in all of that.
And the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) used to come to the graves of the people of al-Baqi' and the martyrs to supplicate for them and seek forgiveness, so this meaning is specific to Muslims, not disbelievers.
So this visit, which is visiting graves to remember the Hereafter, or to greet them and supplicate for them, is what the Sunnah brought, as mentioned previously.
And our scholars and others differed on whether it is permissible "

The Shaykh : Yes
The student: Questions.

The Shaykh : Yes, let us stop at "And our scholars differed".