Gathering at the deceased's house for eating, drinking, and reciting the Qur'an is a religious innovation

Q: In some countries, when a person dies, they gather at the deceased's house for three days to pray and make supplication for him. What is the ruling on this?

A: Gathering at the deceased's house for eating, drinking, and reciting the Qur'an is a religious innovation. Likewise, praying in the house is not permissible; rather, men must pray in the mosque with the congregation. The family of the deceased should only be visited to offer condolences, make supplication for them, and seek mercy for their deceased.
As for gathering to hold a funeral with specific recitations, specific supplications, or anything else, that is a religious innovation (bid'ah). If it had been good, our righteous predecessors (Salaf) would have preceded us in doing it. The Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) did not do it. Ja'far ibn Abi Talib, 'Abdullah ibn Rawahah, and Zayd ibn Harithah (may Allah be pleased with them) were killedin the Battle of Mu'tah. The news came to him (peace and blessings be upon him) from the revelation regarding this. So he announced their deaths to the Companions, informed them of their passing, expressed satisfaction with them, and made supplication for them, but he did not hold a funeral for them. Likewise, the Companions after him did not do any of that. 'Umar ibn al-Khattab (may Allah have mercy on him) diedand they did not hold a funeral for him. 'Umar (may Allah have mercy on him) was killedand they did not make a funeral for him, nor did they gather people to recite the Qur'an. 'Uthman was killed after that, and 'Ali (may Allah be pleased with them both), so the Companions (may Allah be pleased with them) did not do any of that for them. Rather, the recommended practice (sunnah) is to prepare food for the deceased's family, whether relatives or neighbors, and send it to them, just as the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) did when the news of Ja'far's death reached him. He said to his family:for them any of that. Rather, the recommended practice (sunnah) is to prepare food for the deceased's family, whether relatives or neighbors, and send it to them, just as the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) did when the news of Ja'far's death reached him. He said to his family: It was narrated by the five [compilers] except al-Nasa'i. This is the prescribed practice. As for them bearing a burden in addition to their own burden, and being tasked with preparing food for people, that is contrary to the Sunnah and is a religious innovation; for what we mentioned earlier, and for the statement of Jarir ibn Abdullah al-Bajali (may Allah be pleased with him):“We considered gathering at the home of the deceased and preparing food after his burial to be part of wailing.” It was narrated by Imam Ahmad and Ibn Majah with a sound chain of narration.
Wailing is raising the voice in crying, and it is forbidden. The deceased is punished in his grave for what is wailed over him, as is established by the Sunnah from the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him). Therefore, one must be cautious of that.
As for crying, there is nothing wrong with it if it is only with tears in the eyes, without wailing; due to the statement of the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) when his son Ibrahim died: .