Advice for one who lives in a non-compliant environment
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You also say: Allah the Mighty and Majestic commanded us to maintain family ties, but my relatives are not religious, they do not pray, and they do not observe hijab, including my mother, my sisters, my brothers, and my mother. And I, praise be to Allah, am a Muslim woman who observes hijab, does not contact any non-mahram, and does not leave the house. I always work to resolve household problems and explain the benefits of Islam and the Prophetic Sunnah to my family, but to no avail. So, do I cause them distress or distance myself from them? Please advise us, may Allah reward you with good.
Answer: O sister in Allah! You are to be thanked for this good deed, for this advice, and for adhering to the rulings of Islam regarding hijab and other matters. May Allah reward you with good, bless you, and keep us and you firm upon the truth. We advise you to fear Allah, and to be patient and persevere in the religion of Allah. We also advise you to pay attention to the Qur'an, to recite it frequently, and to reflect on its meanings. Pay attention to the pure Sunnah and reflect on its meanings, such as Bulugh al-Maram by al-Hafiz Ibn Hajar, which is a good book; Umdat al-Hadith by Shaykh 'Abd al-Ghani ibn Sirr al-Maqdisi, which is a good book in hadith; Muntakha al-Akhbar by al-Mujaddid Ibn Taymiyyah, which is a good book; and Riyad al-Salihin by al-Nawawi (may Allah have mercy on him), which is a good book. We advise you to read these beneficial books. Also, Kitab al-Tawhid by Shaykh Muhammad ibn 'Abd al-Wahhab, and Fath al-Majid by his grandson Shaykh 'Abd al-Rahman ibn Hasan, which is a good book. These books and similar ones are beneficial and useful. Likewise, Kitab al-Iman by Shaykh al-Islam Ibn Taymiyyah is a beneficial book; Iqtida' al-Sirat al-Mustaqim by him is also beneficial; and al-'Aqidah al-Wasitiyyah by him is also beneficial. We advise you to be patient in advising your mother, sisters, and relatives, advising them with kind words and a good manner; for Allah the Exalted and Majestic says: [Al-Ma'idah: 2], and this is part of that. If some harm or mockery occurs, do not let it concern you; be patient and persevere. The Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) said: Sunan an-Nasa'i 4197Sahih (Darussalam) And in the two Sahihs, it is narrated from Jarir ibn 'Abd Allah al-Bajali (may Allah be pleased with him) that he said: Sahih al-Bukhari 1401.
So you, O sister in Allah, be patient and persevere. Your mother and relatives have a right upon you, and the greatest right is: advice. So advise them always with a good manner, and at appropriate times, regarding paying attention to prayer and maintaining it; regarding hijab; regarding not being alone with a non-mahram if a woman is alone, and the like; regarding advising to fear Allah in all matters; regarding learning the Noble Qur'an and paying attention to it; and so on. You are upon good. If they accept from you, that is what is required. If they do not accept, you have fulfilled what is upon you, and never despair. We ask Allah for success and guidance for us and for you, and we ask Allah for success, guidance, and rectification of circumstances for your relatives.
Answer: O sister in Allah! You are to be thanked for this good deed, for this advice, and for adhering to the rulings of Islam regarding hijab and other matters. May Allah reward you with good, bless you, and keep us and you firm upon the truth. We advise you to fear Allah, and to be patient and persevere in the religion of Allah. We also advise you to pay attention to the Qur'an, to recite it frequently, and to reflect on its meanings. Pay attention to the pure Sunnah and reflect on its meanings, such as Bulugh al-Maram by al-Hafiz Ibn Hajar, which is a good book; Umdat al-Hadith by Shaykh 'Abd al-Ghani ibn Sirr al-Maqdisi, which is a good book in hadith; Muntakha al-Akhbar by al-Mujaddid Ibn Taymiyyah, which is a good book; and Riyad al-Salihin by al-Nawawi (may Allah have mercy on him), which is a good book. We advise you to read these beneficial books. Also, Kitab al-Tawhid by Shaykh Muhammad ibn 'Abd al-Wahhab, and Fath al-Majid by his grandson Shaykh 'Abd al-Rahman ibn Hasan, which is a good book. These books and similar ones are beneficial and useful. Likewise, Kitab al-Iman by Shaykh al-Islam Ibn Taymiyyah is a beneficial book; Iqtida' al-Sirat al-Mustaqim by him is also beneficial; and al-'Aqidah al-Wasitiyyah by him is also beneficial. We advise you to be patient in advising your mother, sisters, and relatives, advising them with kind words and a good manner; for Allah the Exalted and Majestic says:
cooperate in righteousness and piety
وَتَعَاوَنُوا عَلَى الْبِرِّ وَالتَّقْوَىReligion is sincerity (An-Nasihah).' They said: 'To whom, O Messenger of Allah?' he said: 'To Allah, to His Book, to His Messenger, to the imams of the Muslims, and to their common folk
الدين النصيحة، قيل: لمن يا رسول الله؟ قال: لله، ولكتابه، ولرسوله، ولأئمة المسلمين وعامتهمI gave the pledge of allegiance to the Prophet (ﷺ) for offering prayer perfectly, giving Zakat, and giving good advice to every Muslim.
بايعت النبي ﷺ على إقام الصلاة، وإيتاء الزكاة، والنصح لكل مسلمSo you, O sister in Allah, be patient and persevere. Your mother and relatives have a right upon you, and the greatest right is: advice. So advise them always with a good manner, and at appropriate times, regarding paying attention to prayer and maintaining it; regarding hijab; regarding not being alone with a non-mahram if a woman is alone, and the like; regarding advising to fear Allah in all matters; regarding learning the Noble Qur'an and paying attention to it; and so on. You are upon good. If they accept from you, that is what is required. If they do not accept, you have fulfilled what is upon you, and never despair. We ask Allah for success and guidance for us and for you, and we ask Allah for success, guidance, and rectification of circumstances for your relatives.
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