Ruling on a man preventing his wife from visiting her non-practicing relatives
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Question:
A message reached the program from one of the listeners in the Arab Republic of Egypt, from a woman there who says, Umm Abdullah: Umm Abdullah has a long question. She says: Is it permissible for my husband to prevent me from visiting my relatives—my father, my mother, and my brothers—and to say to me: "You have the choice of staying with me, or visiting your family's house. If you go out to visit your family, do not enter my house again." Knowing that my relatives are not practicing Muslims. When my husband learned that I was sad because of this statement, he said to me: "Then, once a month." My husband traveled after that and was absent for four months, and he prevented me from going to my relatives, and I complied. My question is: Does my husband have the right to prevent me from visiting my relatives because they are not practicing, and am I sinful in this situation? Please guide us, may Allah reward you with good.
Answer:
Yes, he may prevent you from visiting your relatives if the visit harms you and harms him, because they are not practicing. However, if the visit does not harm you and does not harm him, such as if you visit them to maintain family ties and be dutiful, and you advise them and guide them to good, this is a good matter, and he should not prevent you. But if the visit harms you and harms him, and causes problems between you, between the two of you and the relatives, then he may prevent you from that, because of the harm it brings to him and to you.
And if he says, "If you visit them, I will divorce you," do not go to them. If you go to them, the divorce takes place if he intended it to take place. But if he intended to prevent you, not to divorce you, but he wanted to prevent you, and wanted to frighten you and threaten you, and did not intend to effect the divorce, then this has the ruling of an oath, and its expiation is upon him.
In any case, it is obligatory for you to listen and obey what he says to you, provided it is known to be right and does not contradict the Shari'ah of Allah. However, if it is something that contradicts the Shari'ah of Allah, and if his preventing you has no reason or legal basis, then this is referred to the court if you and he do not reach a settlement. The reference in this matter is to the court, and the court looks into the matter and the resolution of the problem, unless you both settle, in which case a settlement between you is permissible and valid, but on the condition that it does not involve disobedience to Allah. The settlement must be on a legal basis that does not contain disobedience to Allah Yes.
The presenter : May Allah reward you with good.
A message reached the program from one of the listeners in the Arab Republic of Egypt, from a woman there who says, Umm Abdullah: Umm Abdullah has a long question. She says: Is it permissible for my husband to prevent me from visiting my relatives—my father, my mother, and my brothers—and to say to me: "You have the choice of staying with me, or visiting your family's house. If you go out to visit your family, do not enter my house again." Knowing that my relatives are not practicing Muslims. When my husband learned that I was sad because of this statement, he said to me: "Then, once a month." My husband traveled after that and was absent for four months, and he prevented me from going to my relatives, and I complied. My question is: Does my husband have the right to prevent me from visiting my relatives because they are not practicing, and am I sinful in this situation? Please guide us, may Allah reward you with good.
Answer:
Yes, he may prevent you from visiting your relatives if the visit harms you and harms him, because they are not practicing. However, if the visit does not harm you and does not harm him, such as if you visit them to maintain family ties and be dutiful, and you advise them and guide them to good, this is a good matter, and he should not prevent you. But if the visit harms you and harms him, and causes problems between you, between the two of you and the relatives, then he may prevent you from that, because of the harm it brings to him and to you.
And if he says, "If you visit them, I will divorce you," do not go to them. If you go to them, the divorce takes place if he intended it to take place. But if he intended to prevent you, not to divorce you, but he wanted to prevent you, and wanted to frighten you and threaten you, and did not intend to effect the divorce, then this has the ruling of an oath, and its expiation is upon him.
In any case, it is obligatory for you to listen and obey what he says to you, provided it is known to be right and does not contradict the Shari'ah of Allah. However, if it is something that contradicts the Shari'ah of Allah, and if his preventing you has no reason or legal basis, then this is referred to the court if you and he do not reach a settlement. The reference in this matter is to the court, and the court looks into the matter and the resolution of the problem, unless you both settle, in which case a settlement between you is permissible and valid, but on the condition that it does not involve disobedience to Allah. The settlement must be on a legal basis that does not contain disobedience to Allah Yes.
The presenter : May Allah reward you with good.
Source
binbaz.org.sa
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