What is the husband's position regarding a wife who disobeys her husband, insults him, and commits forbidden acts?
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The questioner : All right, Shaykh, the seventh question: Of course, there are ten questions. A wife who does not obey her husband's orders; he orders her to wear the Shari'ah-prescribed clothing and she refuses; he orders her not to turn on the television and she refuses; she uses foul language, she curses her children, and she insults her husband. So what is her husband's position toward her? What should he do with her?
The Shaykh : It appears that he is negligent toward her.
The questioner : Yes.
The Shaykh : Meaning, he is not applying the Qur'anic text:[An-Nisa 4:34].
The questioner: Yes.
The Shaykh : So it appears he is not fulfilling his duty in any of these matters.
The questioner : Correct.
The Shaykh : Ah, so what do we tell him? We tell him: Obey your Lord, apply this verse, so admonish her, admonish her time after time, and round after round.
The questioner: Yes.
The Shaykh : Perhaps she will respond. If she does not respond, it seems she is one of those who are not easily admonished.
The questioner: Yes.
The Shaykh : So after that, all he has to do is use the double weapon.
The questioner: Yes.
The Shaykh : The one by which he disciplines himself and disciplines his wife at the same time, which is: boycotting her in the bed. And this naturally requires faith, determination, and strong will.
The questioner : The most important thing.
The Shaykh : And this is the second matter. If she does not do it, let him strike her. If she does not respond, let him divorce her.
The questioner : Yes, even the Shaykh says: She says to him: "O donkey," to her husband.
The Shaykh : Allahu Akbar!! It is clear that he is a man, meaning, as they say: the horse is from the rider.
The questioner : Yes.
The Shaykh : So he is not a rider.
The questioner : Allah is the Helper.
The Shaykh : Allah is the Helper.
The Shaykh : It appears that he is negligent toward her.
The questioner : Yes.
The Shaykh : Meaning, he is not applying the Qur'anic text:
But those [wives] from whom you fear arrogance - [first] advise them; [then if they persist], forsake them in bed; and [finally], strike them
وَاللَّاتِي تَخَافُونَ نُشُوزَهُنَّ فَعِظُوهُنَّ وَاهْجُرُوهُنَّ فِي الْمَضَاجِعِ وَاضْرِبُوهُنَّThe questioner: Yes.
The Shaykh : So it appears he is not fulfilling his duty in any of these matters.
The questioner : Correct.
The Shaykh : Ah, so what do we tell him? We tell him: Obey your Lord, apply this verse, so admonish her, admonish her time after time, and round after round.
The questioner: Yes.
The Shaykh : Perhaps she will respond. If she does not respond, it seems she is one of those who are not easily admonished.
The questioner: Yes.
The Shaykh : So after that, all he has to do is use the double weapon.
The questioner: Yes.
The Shaykh : The one by which he disciplines himself and disciplines his wife at the same time, which is: boycotting her in the bed. And this naturally requires faith, determination, and strong will.
The questioner : The most important thing.
The Shaykh : And this is the second matter. If she does not do it, let him strike her. If she does not respond, let him divorce her.
The questioner : Yes, even the Shaykh says: She says to him: "O donkey," to her husband.
The Shaykh : Allahu Akbar!! It is clear that he is a man, meaning, as they say: the horse is from the rider.
The questioner : Yes.
The Shaykh : So he is not a rider.
The questioner : Allah is the Helper.
The Shaykh : Allah is the Helper.
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