Ruling on a man looking at his fiancée
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Question:
Your Eminence! This questioner says: A man proposed to a girl, and the girl's family prevented him from sitting with her, talking to her, or even looking at her. If a man proposes to a woman, is he allowed to look at her in the presence of her relatives?
Answer:
The Sunnah is to look. The Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings be upon him) ordered the one who proposes to look. He said:Sunan Abi Dawud 2082Hasan (Al-Albani).
The point is: He ordered the one who proposes to look. A man said to him: “O Messenger of Allah! I have proposed to so-and-so.” He said: He said: No. He said: And he said: Musannaf Ibn Abi Shaybah 6:1350.
The Sunnah is to look at the fiancée as far as is facilitated, but he should not be alone with her. Rather, it is recommended for him to look at her in the presence of her brother, or her mother, or others, or from a distance; perhaps he will see in her something that leads him to marry her. If he marries her and did not look at her, there is no blame on him. And if it is facilitated to send someone to look at her and know her condition, then inform him of her characteristics; this suffices in place of looking.
The point is: The Sunnah is to be careful in the matter. This is the Sunnah. The suitor is careful by looking, or by sending someone he trusts to look at her, so that her mother, or her sister, or her daughter, or the like, can inform him about her characteristics and morals. Yes.
The presenter: May Allah reward you, O Shaykh.
Your Eminence! This questioner says: A man proposed to a girl, and the girl's family prevented him from sitting with her, talking to her, or even looking at her. If a man proposes to a woman, is he allowed to look at her in the presence of her relatives?
Answer:
The Sunnah is to look. The Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings be upon him) ordered the one who proposes to look. He said:
if he is able to look at what will induce him to marry her, he should do so
إن استطاع أن ينظر إلى ما يدعوه إلى نكاحها؛ فليفعلThe point is: He ordered the one who proposes to look. A man said to him: “O Messenger of Allah! I have proposed to so-and-so.” He said:
Have you looked at her?
هل نظرت إليها؟Go and look at her
اذهب فانظر إليهاWhen one of you proposes to a woman, if he is able to look at what would incline him to marry her, let him do so.
إذا خطب أحدكم المرأة، فإن استطاع أن ينظر منها إلى ما يدعوه إلى نكاحها؛ فليفعلThe Sunnah is to look at the fiancée as far as is facilitated, but he should not be alone with her. Rather, it is recommended for him to look at her in the presence of her brother, or her mother, or others, or from a distance; perhaps he will see in her something that leads him to marry her. If he marries her and did not look at her, there is no blame on him. And if it is facilitated to send someone to look at her and know her condition, then inform him of her characteristics; this suffices in place of looking.
The point is: The Sunnah is to be careful in the matter. This is the Sunnah. The suitor is careful by looking, or by sending someone he trusts to look at her, so that her mother, or her sister, or her daughter, or the like, can inform him about her characteristics and morals. Yes.
The presenter: May Allah reward you, O Shaykh.
Source
binbaz.org.sa
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