What is the wisdom behind looking at the prospective bride?
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The Shaykh : The wisdom behind looking at one's prospective bride was explained by the Messenger (peace and blessings be upon him) in his saying: meaning it is closer and more likely to bring harmony, for "adham" means to harmonize, just as one harmonizes bread with broth. Good.
The author says "repeatedly", which is connected to the looking, meaning that he should look repeatedly, i.e., several times. This is because the first look may not be sufficient. The first look occurs in a state of suddenness and seems abrupt to the person, so he needs to look again, once after another. There is nothing wrong with this, because a woman may appear beautiful to a man in the first look, and he may fear that this beauty is only because it is the first look, so he wants to look again. She may appear so, but then when he goes to his home and sits to think, he may wonder if there is something in her eye, something in her nose, or something in her lips. He needs to look a second time. The important thing is that he should look repeatedly as long as he is still interested in the proposal.
It is more likely
فإنه أحرىto bring harmony between you
أن يؤدم بينكماThe author says "repeatedly", which is connected to the looking, meaning that he should look repeatedly, i.e., several times. This is because the first look may not be sufficient. The first look occurs in a state of suddenness and seems abrupt to the person, so he needs to look again, once after another. There is nothing wrong with this, because a woman may appear beautiful to a man in the first look, and he may fear that this beauty is only because it is the first look, so he wants to look again. She may appear so, but then when he goes to his home and sits to think, he may wonder if there is something in her eye, something in her nose, or something in her lips. He needs to look a second time. The important thing is that he should look repeatedly as long as he is still interested in the proposal.
