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﴿ فَاسْأَلُوا أَهْلَ الذِّكْرِ إِن كُنتُمْ لَا تَعْلَمُونَ ﴾

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Ruling on a woman forbidding her husband to herself

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The question: He has a third inquiry as well, in which he says: What is the ruling on a woman who says to her husband, “May Allah forbid you to me,” and then goes to her parents’ house and returns to the marital home afterward?
The answer: This wording is the wording of a report, but its meaning is a supplication. It has no basis, and nothing is achieved by it, nor does anything follow from it. So her saying, “May Allah forbid you,” or “May Allah make you forbidden to me,” nothing follows from it, but it is a supplication that is not befitting for her. Its meaning is asking for something that would make her forbidden to him, and this is not befitting for her.
As for if she says, “You are forbidden to me,” or “You are a mahram to me,” then first, this is not permissible for her, and second, she owes an expiation for an oath if she does that. This is because if a Muslim forbids something lawful to himself, he owes an expiation for an oath. This is based on the saying of Allah, the Exalted:
(1) O Prophet, why do you prohibit [yourself from] what Allah has made lawful for you, seeking the approval of your wives? And Allah is Forgiving and Merciful. (2) Allah has already ordained for you [Muslims] the dissolution of your oathsيَا أَيُّهَا النَّبِيُّ لِمَ تُحَرِّمُ مَا أَحَلَّ اللَّهُ لَكَ تَبْتَغِي مَرْضَاةَ أَزْوَاجِكَ وَاللَّهُ غَفُورٌ رَحِيمٌ ۝ قَدْ فَرَضَ اللَّهُ لَكُمْ تَحِلَّةَ أَيْمَانِكُمْ
[Surah al-Tahrim: 1-2]. So whoever forbids what Allah has made lawful for him, such as forbidding the food of a certain person, or visiting a certain person, or drinking from a certain person, or sitting with a certain person, or speaking to a certain person, owes an expiation for an oath. Likewise, if a woman says, “My husband is forbidden to me,” or “You are to me like my father,” or something similar, then this is reprehensible speech. She must repent to Allah for that, and she owes an expiation for an oath. This is because zihar does not come from women; it only comes from men toward women. As for a woman, there is no zihar from her toward her husband. This is because Allah, the Exalted, said:
And those who pronounce thihar from their wivesوَالَّذِينَ يُظَاهِرُونَ مِنْ نِسَائِهِمْ
[Surah al-Mujadilah: 3]. So zihar is from the husband toward the woman. As for her, if she commits zihar with her husband or forbids her husband, she owes an expiation for an oath. This is feeding ten poor people, with each poor person receiving half a sa' of the staple food of the land, such as dates or otherwise, or clothing them, with each person receiving what is sufficient for prayer, such as a shirt, an izar, and a rida, or freeing a slave, meaning freeing a male or female slave. One of the three: either feeding ten poor people, or clothing them, or freeing a believing slave. If he is unable to do that and cannot perform this expiation, it is sufficient for him to fast three days in the case of inability. Yes.
The presenter: Meaning, this state is not considered now, meaning she owes an expiation in it?
The Shaykh: No; because it is a supplication... “May Allah forbid you” does not entail an expiation. Yes.
Source binbaz.org.sa

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