I have been married for two years, and one day a problem arose between me and my wife, so I uttered the word of divorce, though I did not intend to divorce her, but some of the brothers
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The Shaykh: Yes.
The questioner: Peace be upon you.
The Shaykh : And upon you be peace and the mercy of Allah.
The questioner: My Shaykh, I am speaking to you from Canada. My name is Abdul-Razzaq Al-Yusuf.
The Shaykh : Welcome.
The questioner: My Shaykh, I have a problem that occurred in my house here, and I want your opinion on it.
The Shaykh: What are they?
The questioner: The truth is, I got married two years ago.
The Shaykh: Yes.
The questioner: I got married two years ago, and one day a misunderstanding occurred between me and my wife, so I uttered the word of divorce, though I did not intend to divorce her in that instance. I inquired about this situation here from some of the brothers, and they said it counts as a divorce, even if it is an innovated divorce and not a divorce according to the Sunnah, my Shaykh.
The Shaykh: I am listening, my brother, so that you can say you have finished your question.
The questioner: So, after a period of time, problems arose between me and my wife a second time, and I said to her, "If any problem occurs between you and me, you are divorced." I did not intend to divorce her either; rather, I intended a threat. It happened that after a period, a problem occurred, so we counted it as a second divorce for ourselves. And yesterday, exactly, a major problem occurred between me and her, and afterwards I threatened her with divorce. I said to her, "This is the third time," and she did not stop her misbehavior and continued to provoke me until, in the end, I do not know what I uttered. I may have said to her, "You are divorced," or I may have said to her, "You are on the verge of divorce." I do not know exactly what phrase I used in the third instance. I have finished, my Shaykh. So, do these count as three divorces, or what should I do?
The Shaykh: What I understood from you is that the first and second divorces were counted against you, and you also counted them for yourself, is that correct?
The questioner: I counted the second one for myself, yes.
The Shaykh: And the first one?
The questioner: The first one, some of the brothers said when...
The Shaykh: Do not repeat your words, do not repeat your words. I am asking you now: was the first one counted against you or not?
The questioner: I do not know the opinion, my Shaykh.
The Shaykh: How do you not know? Two years have passed since you lived with this wife. Did you divorce her the first time and not know whether it was counted against you or not? And you counted the second one. How is this life you are living?
The questioner: I have no answer.
The Shaykh: Ask someone else about this problem. May Allah bless you. You are living in a problem greater than this. Is your wife Muslim or a Canadian Christian?
The questioner: Muslim.
The Shaykh: Muslim. Did you marry her in the lands of Islam?
The questioner: I married her here.
The Shaykh: Ah, okay. When you divorced her the first time, how did you live with her while you did not know whether she was divorced or not?
The questioner: When I inquired about the matter, I did not intend to divorce her, but I intended a threat.
The Shaykh: May Allah guide you, my brother. Do not repeat your words. Answer the question. You intended, you did not intend, the important thing is that you sought a ruling. What was the ruling given?
The questioner: The ruling was that after the reconciliation, the ruling was that she was divorced, and we reconciled with her afterwards.
The Shaykh: May Allah guide you. I am telling you that the meaning of what you said before is that you have two divorces against you. Okay, you say the second one, but for the first one, you do not know. So I told you, how do you live while you do not know whether you divorced her the first time or not? And now you say it was counted against you and you reconciled with her. So, by your admission, she is divorced from you twice. And now you ask whether the third one is a divorce counted against you or not?
The questioner: By Allah, my Shaykh, I do not know what I uttered yesterday.
The Shaykh: And so I know.
The questioner: By Allah, I was in a state of intense anger, my Shaykh.
The Shaykh: My Shaykh, may Allah guide you. I know, so.
The questioner: No.
The Shaykh: So you are asking me about something you do not know, so I am even less likely to know it. Consequently, I do not know whether you divorced her or not. I ask you to gather your thoughts and discuss with your wife, and write your question on a piece of paper so that you are not confused in your question first. Then do not tell me, "I do not know whether I divorced her or not," because your question to me at that time would be of no use, because I would say, "By Allah, if you do not know, then I am like you and do not know, even more so." So gather your thoughts and write what appears to you to have occurred from you on a piece of paper. Then, if you wish, ask me or ask someone else. Peace be upon you.
Allah is sufficient for us, and He is the best Disposer of affairs. Muslims who are lost.
The questioner: Peace be upon you.
The Shaykh : And upon you be peace and the mercy of Allah.
The questioner: My Shaykh, I am speaking to you from Canada. My name is Abdul-Razzaq Al-Yusuf.
The Shaykh : Welcome.
The questioner: My Shaykh, I have a problem that occurred in my house here, and I want your opinion on it.
The Shaykh: What are they?
The questioner: The truth is, I got married two years ago.
The Shaykh: Yes.
The questioner: I got married two years ago, and one day a misunderstanding occurred between me and my wife, so I uttered the word of divorce, though I did not intend to divorce her in that instance. I inquired about this situation here from some of the brothers, and they said it counts as a divorce, even if it is an innovated divorce and not a divorce according to the Sunnah, my Shaykh.
The Shaykh: I am listening, my brother, so that you can say you have finished your question.
The questioner: So, after a period of time, problems arose between me and my wife a second time, and I said to her, "If any problem occurs between you and me, you are divorced." I did not intend to divorce her either; rather, I intended a threat. It happened that after a period, a problem occurred, so we counted it as a second divorce for ourselves. And yesterday, exactly, a major problem occurred between me and her, and afterwards I threatened her with divorce. I said to her, "This is the third time," and she did not stop her misbehavior and continued to provoke me until, in the end, I do not know what I uttered. I may have said to her, "You are divorced," or I may have said to her, "You are on the verge of divorce." I do not know exactly what phrase I used in the third instance. I have finished, my Shaykh. So, do these count as three divorces, or what should I do?
The Shaykh: What I understood from you is that the first and second divorces were counted against you, and you also counted them for yourself, is that correct?
The questioner: I counted the second one for myself, yes.
The Shaykh: And the first one?
The questioner: The first one, some of the brothers said when...
The Shaykh: Do not repeat your words, do not repeat your words. I am asking you now: was the first one counted against you or not?
The questioner: I do not know the opinion, my Shaykh.
The Shaykh: How do you not know? Two years have passed since you lived with this wife. Did you divorce her the first time and not know whether it was counted against you or not? And you counted the second one. How is this life you are living?
The questioner: I have no answer.
The Shaykh: Ask someone else about this problem. May Allah bless you. You are living in a problem greater than this. Is your wife Muslim or a Canadian Christian?
The questioner: Muslim.
The Shaykh: Muslim. Did you marry her in the lands of Islam?
The questioner: I married her here.
The Shaykh: Ah, okay. When you divorced her the first time, how did you live with her while you did not know whether she was divorced or not?
The questioner: When I inquired about the matter, I did not intend to divorce her, but I intended a threat.
The Shaykh: May Allah guide you, my brother. Do not repeat your words. Answer the question. You intended, you did not intend, the important thing is that you sought a ruling. What was the ruling given?
The questioner: The ruling was that after the reconciliation, the ruling was that she was divorced, and we reconciled with her afterwards.
The Shaykh: May Allah guide you. I am telling you that the meaning of what you said before is that you have two divorces against you. Okay, you say the second one, but for the first one, you do not know. So I told you, how do you live while you do not know whether you divorced her the first time or not? And now you say it was counted against you and you reconciled with her. So, by your admission, she is divorced from you twice. And now you ask whether the third one is a divorce counted against you or not?
The questioner: By Allah, my Shaykh, I do not know what I uttered yesterday.
The Shaykh: And so I know.
The questioner: By Allah, I was in a state of intense anger, my Shaykh.
The Shaykh: My Shaykh, may Allah guide you. I know, so.
The questioner: No.
The Shaykh: So you are asking me about something you do not know, so I am even less likely to know it. Consequently, I do not know whether you divorced her or not. I ask you to gather your thoughts and discuss with your wife, and write your question on a piece of paper so that you are not confused in your question first. Then do not tell me, "I do not know whether I divorced her or not," because your question to me at that time would be of no use, because I would say, "By Allah, if you do not know, then I am like you and do not know, even more so." So gather your thoughts and write what appears to you to have occurred from you on a piece of paper. Then, if you wish, ask me or ask someone else. Peace be upon you.
Allah is sufficient for us, and He is the best Disposer of affairs. Muslims who are lost.
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