He bought a car for his needy son, and his brother objected
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Q: I am asking about what happened with one of my sons. His mother died while giving birth to him, so I raised him and took care of him despite my weak financial situation—and this is the father’s duty toward his son. I bought him what he needed. When he reached the age of eighteen, I married him off and paid his mahr from my own money, and I bought him a car. I paid his expenses while he was studying until he graduated and got a job. Then he left me, and he is now receiving a salary of over twenty thousand. I had married after his mother’s death, and I had sons and daughters, and I did with them what
I did with him. Now I sometimes see annoyance from him, despite his righteousness and his participation in da'wah and Friday sermons. I am worried about him despite my forgiveness of him. He came to me objecting to my buying a car for one of my brothers who lives with me and serves me, even though he is married. He said, "Buy me a car just as you bought one for my brother." I told him, "He is not in need of it, and I am worried about you." He then said to me: "I do not permit you to live or die unless you are just, and you are not just if you do not buy me a car." Does any of this statement affect me? Also, once he disobeyed me in a matter, so I swore an oath saying, "By the forbidden shaytan, I will die before you enter your house," intending to swear that he should not go to Qatar. He went there and disobeyed me, but before reaching Qatar, he was informed of an accident involving one of his sons, so he returned. I do not want to cut ties, and I wish to visit him and his children. Please inform me of what is obligatory for me and for him, and is there any advice from you?
A: If your son for whom you bought the car is unable to buy it himself and he is in need of it, there is no blame on you for that; because this is part of the financial maintenance of a needy son. It is not permissible for you to buy a similar car for a wealthy son, because this is singling him out for a gift to the exclusion of his brothers. As for what you mentioned about swearing an oath by the forbidden (haram) that your son would not enter his house if he went to Qatar, and then he went there but returned before reaching it, you are obligated to pay the expiation for the oath. This is freeing a believing slave, or feeding ten poor people and clothing them. If you cannot do that, then you must fast for three days.
I did with him. Now I sometimes see annoyance from him, despite his righteousness and his participation in da'wah and Friday sermons. I am worried about him despite my forgiveness of him. He came to me objecting to my buying a car for one of my brothers who lives with me and serves me, even though he is married. He said, "Buy me a car just as you bought one for my brother." I told him, "He is not in need of it, and I am worried about you." He then said to me: "I do not permit you to live or die unless you are just, and you are not just if you do not buy me a car." Does any of this statement affect me? Also, once he disobeyed me in a matter, so I swore an oath saying, "By the forbidden shaytan, I will die before you enter your house," intending to swear that he should not go to Qatar. He went there and disobeyed me, but before reaching Qatar, he was informed of an accident involving one of his sons, so he returned. I do not want to cut ties, and I wish to visit him and his children. Please inform me of what is obligatory for me and for him, and is there any advice from you?
A: If your son for whom you bought the car is unable to buy it himself and he is in need of it, there is no blame on you for that; because this is part of the financial maintenance of a needy son. It is not permissible for you to buy a similar car for a wealthy son, because this is singling him out for a gift to the exclusion of his brothers. As for what you mentioned about swearing an oath by the forbidden (haram) that your son would not enter his house if he went to Qatar, and then he went there but returned before reaching it, you are obligated to pay the expiation for the oath. This is freeing a believing slave, or feeding ten poor people and clothing them. If you cannot do that, then you must fast for three days.
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