A divorced man proposed to a girl, and her father said to him: Do not make your marriage to my daughter a means to discipline your divorced wife

The questioner : I proposed to a girl from her father, and I had a divorced wife with two children from her. When I proceeded to marry this girl, her father said to me: Do not make your marriage to my daughter a means to discipline your first wife. He also said to me: I do not like problems. This conversation was between me and him, with no witness between us except Allah. Due to my anger at the first wife, I said to him: I do not want to take her back. I said to him: If Allah wills, no problems will occur, for I have come to you to seek kinship from you. He agreed to that. After three years of this marriage, it became difficult for me to be separated from my children and my first wife, so I took her back. The second wife is still under my protection, and until I left her, I did not know of any marital defiance or turning away from her. When I returned to the Kingdom, the father of my second wife claimed that his daughter was divorced based on the previously mentioned condition, which he considered a condition. He took her to a co-educational school for boys and girls to complete her middle school education, knowing that those in charge of this school are male teachers. Does what took place between me and her father at the time of the proposal constitute a legal condition such that violating it annuls the marriage? If this condition is valid, is it permissible for her father to throw her into a co-educational school? Is seeking knowledge sought through disobedience to Allah and exiting His obedience, then obeying the husband? Do I bear sin in this matter? Knowing that I do not agree with this action, is my divorce of her in such a case considered a solution to this problem? Knowing that she is young and faces pressure from her father. Inform us, may Allah reward you.

The Shaykh : The answer to this long, extensive question will be short, if Allah wills. This is a problem with another party, and the program does not solve problems with another party, because problems with another party are resolved by the Shari'ah courts. You, the questioner, can refer this matter of yours to the Shari'ah court to see what the judge rules. And Allah knows best.

The questioner : May Allah bless you.