I am a young man of nineteen years old, afflicted with the secret habit. Every time I repent to Allah, my desire overcomes me, and I fall into this bad habit.
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The questioner : May Allah reward the honorableThe Shaykh : I am a young man of nineteen years old, afflicted with the secret habit. Every time I repent to Allah, my desire overcomes me, and I fall into this bad habit. So what is your advice to me? And is this habit a type of unlawful sexual intercourse?
The Shaykh : Yes. My advice to you is: break the power of Satan. Whenever your self prompts you, turn away from it and look elsewhere, and ask Allah the Exalted for help. If your self overcomes you, repent to Allah. Allah the Exalted does not get tired until you get tired. Whenever your self overcomes you and you are unable to resist and you do it, the door of repentance is open, praise be to Allah. But try to guard against it and stay away from it. The Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him and his family) said:Mishkat al-Masabih 3080. I ask Allah the Exalted to prepare righteous wives for our youth, and to make the bridal gifts affordable, so that one would be how much? No. Ten thousand or twenty thousand, something reasonable. And now, praise be to Allah, as far as I know, people have started to reduce the bridal gifts, praise be to Allah. And the future will be better than the past, if Allah wills, Mighty and Majestic.
One last question. We have books now, small pamphlets, which we will distribute to you, if Allah wills. Hopefully, there will be enough for everyone. And whoever has taken some before is not permitted to take from them again.
Do you have one last question, or shall we conclude and start the distribution? Yes.
The Shaykh : Yes. My advice to you is: break the power of Satan. Whenever your self prompts you, turn away from it and look elsewhere, and ask Allah the Exalted for help. If your self overcomes you, repent to Allah. Allah the Exalted does not get tired until you get tired. Whenever your self overcomes you and you are unable to resist and you do it, the door of repentance is open, praise be to Allah. But try to guard against it and stay away from it. The Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him and his family) said:
Young man, those of you who can support a wife should marry, for it keeps you from looking at strange women and preserves you from immorality; but those who cannot should devote themselves to fasting, for it is a means of suppressing sexual desire.
يا معشر الشباب: من استطاع منكم الباءة فليتزوج، فإنه أغض للبصر وأحصن للفرج، ومن لم يستطع فعليه بالصوم، فإنه له وجاءOne last question. We have books now, small pamphlets, which we will distribute to you, if Allah wills. Hopefully, there will be enough for everyone. And whoever has taken some before is not permitted to take from them again.
Do you have one last question, or shall we conclude and start the distribution? Yes.