Explanation of the athar of Muhammad ibn Sirin: "They used to say: Do not honor your friend with what is difficult for him."

The Shaykh : He says: "They used to say".
We must understand this scientific terminology. If a Tabi'i says, "They used to say," to whom does the pronoun refer? Since he is a Tabi'i, we must understand that he means the Companions. Here, Muhammad ibn Sirin says, "They used to say," meaning the Companions of the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him). What did the Companions of the Prophet (peace be upon him) say? "Do not honor your friend with what is difficult for him". This is proper conduct; this is proper conduct in the sense that one considers the opposite of it to be proper conduct. This appears in many forms, the clearest of which is in our social settings when a guest is present and a table of food is set before him, containing all kinds of delicious and pleasant things. The guest eats what he desires, whether he is a small eater or a large one; he eats his fill. Then the host insists that he eat from here and from there, and the man feels shy and eats. Then from here, and the host keeps moving him from one dish to another until the man is almost bursting. This is the prohibited matter that Muhammad ibn Sirin transmitted from the Companions, that they used to say: "Do not honor your friend with what is difficult for him". So, O noble guest, when you tell him to eat from here, and from here, and from the fruit, and from the grapes and watermelon, you undoubtedly want to honor him, but this is difficult for him. Therefore, we must not be severe or excessive in all our dealings, including honoring the guest. It has passed us more than once the saying of our Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him): And there is no doubt that the intended meaning of excess here is excess in religion. And there is no doubt also that honoring the guest, as we have passed through in hadiths at the beginning of the book, I think, came in them: So honoring the guest is part of the religion, because he says: Just as he says: So, you want to be characterized by this Islamic character, to honor your guest in response to his saying (peace and blessings be upon him): So you present to him food and drink that he cannot handle. This is not at all among the etiquettes of hospitality; rather, it is contrary to Islamic etiquette. It is only social hypocrisy that has become widespread in this time and has spread and increased. Therefore, we take from this correct athar of Muhammad ibn Sirin that we do not honor our guest with what is difficult for him. And this example is not intended for its own sake, and the sensible person expands in his starting point in his life within the limits of this good athar: "Do not honor your guest with what is difficult for him". And this is sufficient, and praise be to Allah, Lord of the worlds.