Marriage by Force
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Question: What is the ruling on a marriage that is forced upon a girl or a young man by their parents, and is it permissible to disobey one’s parents in such a matter or not?
Answer: First: A person should not be forced into marriage, whether male or female; rather, he or she should marry by choice and desire.
As for the issue of disobeying one’s parents in this matter, there is a distinction. If the wife your father compelled you to marry, or the husband her father compelled the girl to marry, is not suitable in terms of religion, then it is not permissible to obey him in this, because this is disobedience to Allah.Mishkat al-Masabih 3696 However, if his refusal is not for the sake of religion, but for some other reason, such as his character, or for a matter other than religion, then it is best to obey your father, and perhaps that will be better for you.And Allah the Exalted says: [Surat al-Baqarah: 216] ,And he says: [Surat al-Nisa: 19] , and perhaps your father has a better perspective than you and looks further ahead regarding the consequences. So if your dislike of the wife, or the wife’s dislike of this husband, is not for a religious reason, then it is best for him to obey his father and proceed with the marriage, and perhaps there is good in that, if Allah wills.
Question: Regarding a marriage forced by compulsion, in terms of validity, is it valid?
Answer: If it is by force without the person’s choice, meaning he was compelled to it, then the person has the option to ratify it or annul it.
Answer: First: A person should not be forced into marriage, whether male or female; rather, he or she should marry by choice and desire.
As for the issue of disobeying one’s parents in this matter, there is a distinction. If the wife your father compelled you to marry, or the husband her father compelled the girl to marry, is not suitable in terms of religion, then it is not permissible to obey him in this, because this is disobedience to Allah.
A creature is not to be obeyed when it involves disobedience to the "Creator.”
ولا طاعة لمخلوق في معصية الخالق،But perhaps you hate a thing and it is good for you
وَعَسَى أَنْ تَكْرَهُوا شَيْئًا وَهُوَ خَيْرٌ لَكُمْFor if you dislike them - perhaps you dislike a thing and Allah makes therein much good.
فَإِنْ كَرِهْتُمُوهُنَّ فَعَسَى أَنْ تَكْرَهُوا شَيْئًا وَيَجْعَلَ اللَّهُ فِيهِ خَيْرًا كَثِيرًاQuestion: Regarding a marriage forced by compulsion, in terms of validity, is it valid?
Answer: If it is by force without the person’s choice, meaning he was compelled to it, then the person has the option to ratify it or annul it.