She also, in her final presentation of this problem, says that I have not been successful in my life, so I am afraid that the lack of success is because of this child.
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The questioner : She also, in her final presentation of this problem, says that I have not been successful in my life. I am afraid that the lack of success is because of this child.
The second problem she has is that she says, "I am a woman confused about my situation. I married a husband, and now ten years have passed since my marriage. After the ten years had passed, he married another woman, and he changed his behavior toward me regarding the night, meaning my night. When I tell him to divorce me, he orders me to wait and tells me that this matter is against his will and that he cannot divorce me. He says, 'Wait.' I am a woman who is sincere to my husband with true sincerity. I currently have no children. And now, if I want to ask for divorce, I have heard that asking for divorce is not permissible because I heard that the most hateful thing to Allah is divorce. Please advise us, may Allah reward you with good?"
The Shaykh : We say that if the man does not treat you and your co-wife with justice, that is forbidden for him.
The questioner : Yes.
The Shaykh : It is not permissible for him, and there is a warning in this regard:Sunan Abi Dawud 2133Sahih (Al-Albani) He must treat you both with justice. However, if he does not fulfill what is obligatory upon him, you have the right to ask him for a divorce. Because if a woman asks for her husband's divorce, meaning that her husband divorces her, and she has a legitimate religious reason, there is no blame on her. A woman once asked Thabit ibn Qays (may Allah be pleased with him) for a divorce from him, and the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) did not rebuke her, because she disliked him intensely. So if there is a legitimate religious reason for a woman to ask for her own divorce, there is no blame on her in that.
The questioner : May Allah reward you.
The second problem she has is that she says, "I am a woman confused about my situation. I married a husband, and now ten years have passed since my marriage. After the ten years had passed, he married another woman, and he changed his behavior toward me regarding the night, meaning my night. When I tell him to divorce me, he orders me to wait and tells me that this matter is against his will and that he cannot divorce me. He says, 'Wait.' I am a woman who is sincere to my husband with true sincerity. I currently have no children. And now, if I want to ask for divorce, I have heard that asking for divorce is not permissible because I heard that the most hateful thing to Allah is divorce. Please advise us, may Allah reward you with good?"
The Shaykh : We say that if the man does not treat you and your co-wife with justice, that is forbidden for him.
The questioner : Yes.
The Shaykh : It is not permissible for him, and there is a warning in this regard:
When a man has two wives and he is inclined to one of them, he will come on the Day of resurrection with a side hanging down.
من كان له امرأتان فمال إلى إحداهما جاء يوم القيامة وشقه مائلThe questioner : May Allah reward you.