You stated that there are two conditions for women visiting graves: covering and taking a lesson.
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The questioner: Our Shaykh, for example, you said that there are two conditions for women visiting graves: that she be wearing a jilbab (outer garment), and the second is for the sake of admonition and lesson. But if a woman travels to visit the grave of her father or her husband, even though there is a cemetery near their home, and she travels specifically for this; is this permissible given that there is a cemetery near their home?
The Shaykh: No, it is permissible, it is permissible, but...
The questioner: Specifically the grave of her husband.
The Shaykh: May Allah guide you, be patient. It is a matter of permissibility, it is permissible, but if she specifies visiting her father or a relative, excluding the general cemetery, then this specification, even though there is no specific text restricting it, indicates that this visit is not for the purpose of remembering the Hereafter. Rather, the best thing to say about it is: it is driven solely by emotion, not by the drive of knowledge and religion. Therefore, we say to those who travel to visit certain graves that are said to be the graves of awliya (close friends of Allah) and righteous people; whether this claim is true or not; why this visit? If the intention is to achieve the goal and wisdom we previously mentioned from the hadith of the Messenger (peace and blessings be upon him), we would say to them: The cemetery is right in front of you, and the admonition from these graves is sufficient. It is enough for a person to imagine them or see them in a dream to wake up in fear. The admonition from these graves is far greater than visiting the grave of a wali (close friend of Allah) or a prophet, especially if it is decorated and adorned with grandeur. In that case, they submit in a manner that should not be for anyone but Allah (Mighty and Majestic). For this reason, we say that traveling to these graves is the greatest proof that they do not intend to achieve the goal mentioned in the authentic hadith.
Perhaps you are satisfied now?
The Shaykh: No, it is permissible, it is permissible, but...
The questioner: Specifically the grave of her husband.
The Shaykh: May Allah guide you, be patient. It is a matter of permissibility, it is permissible, but if she specifies visiting her father or a relative, excluding the general cemetery, then this specification, even though there is no specific text restricting it, indicates that this visit is not for the purpose of remembering the Hereafter. Rather, the best thing to say about it is: it is driven solely by emotion, not by the drive of knowledge and religion. Therefore, we say to those who travel to visit certain graves that are said to be the graves of awliya (close friends of Allah) and righteous people; whether this claim is true or not; why this visit? If the intention is to achieve the goal and wisdom we previously mentioned from the hadith of the Messenger (peace and blessings be upon him), we would say to them: The cemetery is right in front of you, and the admonition from these graves is sufficient. It is enough for a person to imagine them or see them in a dream to wake up in fear. The admonition from these graves is far greater than visiting the grave of a wali (close friend of Allah) or a prophet, especially if it is decorated and adorned with grandeur. In that case, they submit in a manner that should not be for anyone but Allah (Mighty and Majestic). For this reason, we say that traveling to these graves is the greatest proof that they do not intend to achieve the goal mentioned in the authentic hadith.
Perhaps you are satisfied now?
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