How a husband deals with his defiant wife
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His Eminence the Shaykh: A man has two wives; the first is obedient and the second is defiant.He says: Should I stop sleeping with the second as a form of boycott until she behaves, and go sleep with the first?
The second one, who is defiant, is considered defiant (nashiz) if she defies what is obligatory upon her.And Allah the Mighty and Majestic said:[An-Nisa 4:34] This is the first rank: [An-Nisa 4:34] This is the second rank: [Al-Nisa: 34] The verse is general, applying to one who has two wives or one wife, so he may boycott the defiant one until her conduct improves. If he sees a method better than boycotting, that is better.But the poet says:
If there is nothing but a ship to ride, what choice does the desperate person have but to ride it?
The second one, who is defiant, is considered defiant (nashiz) if she defies what is obligatory upon her.And Allah the Mighty and Majestic said:
But those [wives] from whom you fear arrogance - [first] advise them
وَاللَّاتِي تَخَافُونَ نُشُوزَهُنَّ فَعِظُوهُنَّMen are in charge of women by [right of] what Allah has given one over the other and what they spend [for maintenance] from their wealth. So righteous women are devoutly obedient, guarding in [the husband's] absence what Allah would have them guard. But those [wives] from whom you fear arrogance - [first] advise them; [then if they persist], forsake them in bed; and [finally], strike them. But if they obey you [once more], seek no means against them. Indeed, Allah is ever Exalted and Grand.
وَاهْجُرُوهُنَّ فِي الْمَضَاجِعِAnd strike them
وَاضْرِبُوهُنَّIf there is nothing but a ship to ride, what choice does the desperate person have but to ride it?