Boycoting one's wife for the purpose of discipline

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A man has a wife, and he has boycotted her in the bed to discipline her.Question: How long should the boycott in the bed last, especially if this boycott does not benefit the woman?
Allah, Glorified and Exalted is He, mentioned three stages in His Noble Book:So he said:

But those [wives] from whom you fear arrogance - [first] advise them

وَاللَّاتِي تَخَافُونَ نُشُوزَهُنَّ فَعِظُوهُنَّ

[Surah al-Nisa: 34], and this is the first thing a man begins with when he fears his wife's marital defiance.

Men are in charge of women by [right of] what Allah has given one over the other and what they spend [for maintenance] from their wealth. So righteous women are devoutly obedient, guarding in [the husband's] absence what Allah would have them guard. But those [wives] from whom you fear arrogance - [first] advise them; [then if they persist], forsake them in bed; and [finally], strike them. But if they obey you [once more], seek no means against them. Indeed, Allah is ever Exalted and Grand.

وَاهْجُرُوهُنَّ فِي الْمَضَاجِعِ

[Surah al-Nisa: 34] This is the second stage.

And strike them

وَاضْرِبُوهُنَّ

[Surah al-Nisa: 34] This is the third stage. If the boycott does not benefit, he strikes her, but with a strike that is not severe,Meaning: not painful or hurtful; because the intention is discipline. However, he should not resort to striking except in extreme cases; because the Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings be upon him) condemned a man who beats his wife like a slave and then lies with her; because this is something not acceptable by the nature of creation. How can a woman be reconciled with a man who struck her hours ago and now lies with her! This is far from the hearts and the innate natural disposition. Therefore, he should not resort to striking after a boycott that did not benefit except in a case of dire necessity. If the situation improves after the striking, otherwise two arbitrators are appointed: one from his family and one from her family, and they reconcile between them. It is obligatory for these two men to fear Allah, Mighty and Majestic, and to take justice, and to seek reconciliation.And Allah the Exalted said:

If they both desire reconciliation

إِنْ يُرِيدَا إِصْلاحاً

[Surah al-Nisa: 35] meaning: the husband and the wife and the two arbitrators:

Allah will cause it between them

يُوَفِّقِ اللَّهُ بَيْنَهُمَا

[Surah al-Nisa: 35].

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