Establishing brotherhood and getting to know one another among Muslims is a great benefit
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We are a large family, and we go out to the open desert every year,And some wrongs occur, such as: [there is] singing, backbiting, and smoking, and we go out with them and come in before these wrongs occur,Meaning: before there is singing by men with the hand drum, and women as well?The Shaykh: I mean: you are referring to a gathering for getting to know one another.
The questioner: Yes, an annual gathering, O Shaykh.
The important thing is that it is a gathering for getting to know one another, the purpose of which is getting to know one another and bonding, if that is the case.
The questioner: And it is a custom we have adopted annually.
The Shaykh: I say: there is no disagreement, if this is for getting to know one another and bonding, and looking into the family’s circumstances, who needs [help] and who does not, then that is good. And if a wrong occurs, a person has no choice but to leave, did you understand? But if it is merely a trip for recreation and there is no benefit in it, then it is a waste of time and unnecessary. As for it being repeated, as long as it is not tied to a specific month, there is nothing wrong with it.
The questioner: If the family is very large, and these wrongs have previously been rebuked but there is no response.
The Shaykh: You mentioned in your question, may Allah reward you, that you gather, and when the wrong that you see as a wrong occurs, you leave them?The questioner: Some of the brothers [leave], and the rest sit.
The Shaykh: In any case: [Fussilat: 46] The one who sits with the people of a wrong is like the one who commits the wrong.
The questioner: But as for us, is it permissible to cut off ties with them, O Shaykh,For example: not to go out?The Shaykh: As I told you: as long as there is a benefit, do not cut off ties with them.
The questioner: There is no benefit.
The Shaykh: Did you not say that getting to know one another and bonding takes place? This is a great benefit,Now, if you ask the paternal cousins: How long has your uncle not come?He said: I do not know,Perhaps if you asked your brother: How long has he not come?He would say: I do not know. This is cutting off ties. It is not good for people not to know one another. So, in my opinion, he should go out, and if he has a word and standing among the people, he can, if he sees a wrong, say: O people! Fear Allah, and advise them, and perhaps Allah will guide them through him. And if he is one of the common people, he goes out, for example, and joins them for lunch or the like, and addresses their problems if they have any, and then leaves.
The questioner: Yes, an annual gathering, O Shaykh.
The important thing is that it is a gathering for getting to know one another, the purpose of which is getting to know one another and bonding, if that is the case.
The questioner: And it is a custom we have adopted annually.
The Shaykh: I say: there is no disagreement, if this is for getting to know one another and bonding, and looking into the family’s circumstances, who needs [help] and who does not, then that is good. And if a wrong occurs, a person has no choice but to leave, did you understand? But if it is merely a trip for recreation and there is no benefit in it, then it is a waste of time and unnecessary. As for it being repeated, as long as it is not tied to a specific month, there is nothing wrong with it.
The questioner: If the family is very large, and these wrongs have previously been rebuked but there is no response.
The Shaykh: You mentioned in your question, may Allah reward you, that you gather, and when the wrong that you see as a wrong occurs, you leave them?The questioner: Some of the brothers [leave], and the rest sit.
The Shaykh: In any case:
Whoever does righteousness - it is for his [own] soul; and whoever does evil [does so] against it
مَنْ عَمِلَ صَالِحاً فَلِنَفْسِهِ وَمَنْ أَسَاءَ فَعَلَيْهَاThe questioner: But as for us, is it permissible to cut off ties with them, O Shaykh,For example: not to go out?The Shaykh: As I told you: as long as there is a benefit, do not cut off ties with them.
The questioner: There is no benefit.
The Shaykh: Did you not say that getting to know one another and bonding takes place? This is a great benefit,Now, if you ask the paternal cousins: How long has your uncle not come?He said: I do not know,Perhaps if you asked your brother: How long has he not come?He would say: I do not know. This is cutting off ties. It is not good for people not to know one another. So, in my opinion, he should go out, and if he has a word and standing among the people, he can, if he sees a wrong, say: O people! Fear Allah, and advise them, and perhaps Allah will guide them through him. And if he is one of the common people, he goes out, for example, and joins them for lunch or the like, and addresses their problems if they have any, and then leaves.