The Method of Contracting Marriage
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Is there a established Sunnah regarding the method of contracting marriage?
The Sunnah was mentioned by the scholars (may Allah have mercy on them),And it is in the hadith of Ibn Mas'ud: (that the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) used to teach them the tashahhud in the need,He said: and among the needs is the marriage contract,and she: "Praise be to Allah, we praise Him and seek His help and seek His forgiveness, and we seek refuge in Allah from the evils of our souls and the badness of our deeds") and some people add to it ("and we repent to Him") and some add: ("and we seek His guidance") and all of these did not come in the hadith,Rather, the hadith is: ("Praise be to Allah, we praise Him and seek His help and seek His forgiveness, and we seek refuge in Allah from the evils of our souls and the badness of our deeds, whoever Allah guides, there is no one who can misguide him, and whoever He misguides, there is no one who can guide him") and this also is changed by some people, and they say: ("and whoever He misguides, you will not find for him a guiding guardian") and this is an error. The one who wants the text, either he preserves it or he leaves it. As for entering into it whatever he wishes and taking out whatever he wishes, that is not permissible. And there is no doubt that preserving the wording of the text without addition or subtraction is better,And therefore, if a person wants to say in the tashahhud: ("O Allah, send blessings upon Muhammad and upon the family of Muhammad, to the end of it") He said: ("O Allah, send blessings upon our Prophet Muhammad and our master and our intimate friend and our imam, and the like of that") All of these are true descriptions. There is no doubt that he is our intimate friend, that he is our imam, and that he is our master. But is it proper etiquette to add them to a hadith that the Messenger defined for us?Answer: No.
And if we delete them, we are more respectful to the Messenger (peace and blessings be upon him) than those who add them; because adding them, while the Messenger did not say them, is bad etiquette. Are you more knowledgeable than the Messenger of Allah? The Messenger of Allah, if he had willed, he would have added them.
In any case: It is the Khutbat al-Hajah (Sermon of Need), and it is in the hadith of Ibn Mas'ud.
And it is said, for example, to the groom, the wali says: I give you in marriage my daughter, or my sister, or the one who has guardianship over her,And that one says: I accept.
Just like that.
The questioner: O Shaykh! Should it be in the mosque,Or so, the Shaykh says: Yes.
Some scholars recommended that it be in the mosque, and that it be after the 'Asr prayer on Friday, but there is no evidence for any of this.
The Sunnah was mentioned by the scholars (may Allah have mercy on them),And it is in the hadith of Ibn Mas'ud: (that the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) used to teach them the tashahhud in the need,He said: and among the needs is the marriage contract,and she: "Praise be to Allah, we praise Him and seek His help and seek His forgiveness, and we seek refuge in Allah from the evils of our souls and the badness of our deeds") and some people add to it ("and we repent to Him") and some add: ("and we seek His guidance") and all of these did not come in the hadith,Rather, the hadith is: ("Praise be to Allah, we praise Him and seek His help and seek His forgiveness, and we seek refuge in Allah from the evils of our souls and the badness of our deeds, whoever Allah guides, there is no one who can misguide him, and whoever He misguides, there is no one who can guide him") and this also is changed by some people, and they say: ("and whoever He misguides, you will not find for him a guiding guardian") and this is an error. The one who wants the text, either he preserves it or he leaves it. As for entering into it whatever he wishes and taking out whatever he wishes, that is not permissible. And there is no doubt that preserving the wording of the text without addition or subtraction is better,And therefore, if a person wants to say in the tashahhud: ("O Allah, send blessings upon Muhammad and upon the family of Muhammad, to the end of it") He said: ("O Allah, send blessings upon our Prophet Muhammad and our master and our intimate friend and our imam, and the like of that") All of these are true descriptions. There is no doubt that he is our intimate friend, that he is our imam, and that he is our master. But is it proper etiquette to add them to a hadith that the Messenger defined for us?Answer: No.
And if we delete them, we are more respectful to the Messenger (peace and blessings be upon him) than those who add them; because adding them, while the Messenger did not say them, is bad etiquette. Are you more knowledgeable than the Messenger of Allah? The Messenger of Allah, if he had willed, he would have added them.
In any case: It is the Khutbat al-Hajah (Sermon of Need), and it is in the hadith of Ibn Mas'ud.
And it is said, for example, to the groom, the wali says: I give you in marriage my daughter, or my sister, or the one who has guardianship over her,And that one says: I accept.
Just like that.
The questioner: O Shaykh! Should it be in the mosque,Or so, the Shaykh says: Yes.
Some scholars recommended that it be in the mosque, and that it be after the 'Asr prayer on Friday, but there is no evidence for any of this.