A young man in America suffering from homosexuality and seeking a cure for this disease: what do you advise him?
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The questioner : The second problem: One of the brothers, O Shaykh, I received a letter from him yesterday, and by Allah, it is something that makes one cry.
The Shaykh : Allah is the Helper.
The questioner : I will read you the letter; it is short, I mean.
The Shaykh: Go ahead.
The questioner : I have a problem, and I do not know if there is a solution for it, especially after I tried and failed. Before I raise it, I would like to tell you about my desire to present... I do not want to introduce myself; I am content with the name Abdullah. My problem is great and spoils my life: I am a young man in the prime of my life, and unfortunately I suffer from the disease of homosexuality, in that I have no sexual desire toward the opposite sex, because my sexual desire is inclined toward young men of my own sex. This homosexuality began at the age of puberty. In fact, I neglected this matter because I thought this sexual disease would go away with time. I did not realize the seriousness of this matter until I reached the age of twenty, so I began to search for whether there is a cure in medicine, and I was told that this disease will remain with me as long as I am alive.
The Shaykh : I seek refuge in Allah.
The questioner : The problem has grown, especially since I am now of marriageable age, and my family is determined to marry me off. I am trying to evade the subject whenever it is presented to me, because I do not want to be unjust. I cannot confide in my family about this, knowing that I have not spoken to any person about this matter. I have opened my heart to you, hoping for your help, by the permission of Allah. I mean, by Allah, O Shaykh, it is a problem. I started writing him a letter, but I did not finish it. I wanted to tell him that this disease will accompany you for your whole life. This man, I mean, is a devil.
The Shaykh : Certainly, you spoke the truth in what you said. Good.
The questioner : Of course, I want to remind him of the verses, for example:[Az-Zumar 39:53] the verse... [Al-A'raf 7:201] Then I will remind him; I will mention to him the hadith of the Companion who said: "The thought comes to me, and it is easier for me than falling from the sky and being snatched by birds."
The Shaykh: Perfect.
The questioner : I will mention the full text, if Allah wills.
The Shaykh : Good, good.
The questioner : From Shaytan, unless you have another suggestion, O Shaykh.
The Shaykh : You must remind him of the hadiths that curse the one who does that, if he is a believer.
The questioner : Yes, these exist, if Allah wills.
The Shaykh : Yes, that is good. But if the man, I mean, is heedless and does not preserve the prayer, then truly there is no cure for him.
The questioner : I say it appears to me that he is heedless, because his question, his mere question, does not indicate heedlessness, O Shaykh.
The Shaykh : It is so, apparently. Therefore, you should present to him the deterrents and warnings.
The questioner: Yes.
The Shaykh : This, along with what I mentioned, will be a cure for him, if Allah wills. And you order him to preserve, in addition to what I mentioned, the dhikr and the daily recitations on all occasions, such as his leaving the house, for example, and entering it. These are all Shari'ah means that are considered spiritual cures for all psychological diseases. If you have copies of "Sahih al-Kalim al-Tayyib"...
The questioner : Yes, I have one, if Allah wills.
The Shaykh : He should be careful to memorize these dhikr and to preserve them on every occasion, so that by this, if Allah wills, the cure is completed.
The questioner : What is the authenticity of the hadith:?
The Shaykh : It is not authentic.
The questioner : It is not authentic.
The Shaykh: No.
The questioner : Other deterrent hadiths, I mean.
The Shaykh : Perhaps you should return to my book "Adab al-Zafaf" (Etiquette of the Wedding).
The questioner : The doer and the one acted upon.
The Shaykh : Yes, my book "Adab al-Zafaf" has good hadiths on this specific matter.
The questioner : Where do I find them?
The Shaykh : I tell you, "Adab al-Zafaf."
The questioner : "Adab al-Zafaf."
The Shaykh : My book "Adab al-Zafaf"; you must have it.
The questioner : Yes, I have it, yes...
The Shaykh : Did you receive it? Did you receive the new edition? The Islamic Bookstore edition, not the Islamic Office edition?
The questioner : I got this one from Kuwait two years ago, and you did not know about it. I announced that I do not consider anything other than this one, I mean.
The Shaykh : Yes.
The questioner : I have the Islamic Bookstore edition.
The Shaykh : That is it.
The questioner : This last one, this one.
The Shaykh : Yes, this is it. You will return to it, if Allah wills, and take from it some hadiths related to my topic.
The Shaykh : Allah is the Helper.
The questioner : I will read you the letter; it is short, I mean.
The Shaykh: Go ahead.
The questioner : I have a problem, and I do not know if there is a solution for it, especially after I tried and failed. Before I raise it, I would like to tell you about my desire to present... I do not want to introduce myself; I am content with the name Abdullah. My problem is great and spoils my life: I am a young man in the prime of my life, and unfortunately I suffer from the disease of homosexuality, in that I have no sexual desire toward the opposite sex, because my sexual desire is inclined toward young men of my own sex. This homosexuality began at the age of puberty. In fact, I neglected this matter because I thought this sexual disease would go away with time. I did not realize the seriousness of this matter until I reached the age of twenty, so I began to search for whether there is a cure in medicine, and I was told that this disease will remain with me as long as I am alive.
The Shaykh : I seek refuge in Allah.
The questioner : The problem has grown, especially since I am now of marriageable age, and my family is determined to marry me off. I am trying to evade the subject whenever it is presented to me, because I do not want to be unjust. I cannot confide in my family about this, knowing that I have not spoken to any person about this matter. I have opened my heart to you, hoping for your help, by the permission of Allah. I mean, by Allah, O Shaykh, it is a problem. I started writing him a letter, but I did not finish it. I wanted to tell him that this disease will accompany you for your whole life. This man, I mean, is a devil.
The Shaykh : Certainly, you spoke the truth in what you said. Good.
The questioner : Of course, I want to remind him of the verses, for example:
Say, "O My servants who have transgressed against themselves
قُلْ يَا عِبَادِيَ الَّذِينَ أَسْرَفُوا عَلَى أَنْفُسِهِمْthose who fear Allah - when an impulse touches them from Satan
الَّذِينَ [ اتَّقَوْا ] إِذَا مَسَّهُمْ طَائِفٌ مِنَ الشَّيْطَانِThe Shaykh: Perfect.
The questioner : I will mention the full text, if Allah wills.
The Shaykh : Good, good.
The questioner : From Shaytan, unless you have another suggestion, O Shaykh.
The Shaykh : You must remind him of the hadiths that curse the one who does that, if he is a believer.
The questioner : Yes, these exist, if Allah wills.
The Shaykh : Yes, that is good. But if the man, I mean, is heedless and does not preserve the prayer, then truly there is no cure for him.
The questioner : I say it appears to me that he is heedless, because his question, his mere question, does not indicate heedlessness, O Shaykh.
The Shaykh : It is so, apparently. Therefore, you should present to him the deterrents and warnings.
The questioner: Yes.
The Shaykh : This, along with what I mentioned, will be a cure for him, if Allah wills. And you order him to preserve, in addition to what I mentioned, the dhikr and the daily recitations on all occasions, such as his leaving the house, for example, and entering it. These are all Shari'ah means that are considered spiritual cures for all psychological diseases. If you have copies of "Sahih al-Kalim al-Tayyib"...
The questioner : Yes, I have one, if Allah wills.
The Shaykh : He should be careful to memorize these dhikr and to preserve them on every occasion, so that by this, if Allah wills, the cure is completed.
The questioner : What is the authenticity of the hadith:
That the Throne of the Most Merciful trembles when
أن عرش الرحمن يهتزُّ إذاThe Shaykh : It is not authentic.
The questioner : It is not authentic.
The Shaykh: No.
The questioner : Other deterrent hadiths, I mean.
The Shaykh : Perhaps you should return to my book "Adab al-Zafaf" (Etiquette of the Wedding).
The questioner : The doer and the one acted upon.
The Shaykh : Yes, my book "Adab al-Zafaf" has good hadiths on this specific matter.
The questioner : Where do I find them?
The Shaykh : I tell you, "Adab al-Zafaf."
The questioner : "Adab al-Zafaf."
The Shaykh : My book "Adab al-Zafaf"; you must have it.
The questioner : Yes, I have it, yes...
The Shaykh : Did you receive it? Did you receive the new edition? The Islamic Bookstore edition, not the Islamic Office edition?
The questioner : I got this one from Kuwait two years ago, and you did not know about it. I announced that I do not consider anything other than this one, I mean.
The Shaykh : Yes.
The questioner : I have the Islamic Bookstore edition.
The Shaykh : That is it.
The questioner : This last one, this one.
The Shaykh : Yes, this is it. You will return to it, if Allah wills, and take from it some hadiths related to my topic.
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