Continuation: Is the guardian to be blamed or does he sin if the marriage of his daughter is delayed because no one with a religion and character he approves of has proposed to her?
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The questioner : The question says, may Allah reward you,The Shaykh : Is the guardian to be blamed or does he sin if the marriage of his daughter is delayed... and his character? And is it permissible for him to look for a suitable husband for her? And is his search for a husband for her considered a blemish for him and for her? May Allah reward you with good.
The Shaykh : If a man delays the marriage of his daughter because no one with a religion and character he approves of has proposed to her, then he does not sin. Because this delay is for the woman's benefit, for one whose religion and character are not approved of will be a calamity for the wife in the future, either turning her away from her religion or treating her with bad treatment from which she will taste hardship. So delaying her marriage while waiting for a suitable suitor involves no sin; rather, it is the very essence of benefit, and the guardian does not sin by doing so.
As for the second point, which is the guardian looking for a suitable husband, this is from the Sunnah. 'Umar ibn al-Khattab (may Allah be pleased with him) offered his daughter Hafsah to 'Uthman ibn 'Affan (may Allah be pleased with him) to marry her, and he said:, and he rejected it out of politeness toward the Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings be upon him) and respect for him. Otherwise, in my opinion, 'Umar ibn al-Khattab (may Allah be pleased with him) would not have rejected it when his daughter was offered to him, but out of respect for the Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings be upon him), he left her. And the Messenger (peace and blessings be upon him) did not propose to her, but he spoke about her, and Abu Bakr understood that he wanted to propose to her, so here he offered her to two men.
So a man offering his daughter to people of goodness is a good thing, and there is no blemish in it; rather, it is a merit for the person. Yes.
The Shaykh : If a man delays the marriage of his daughter because no one with a religion and character he approves of has proposed to her, then he does not sin. Because this delay is for the woman's benefit, for one whose religion and character are not approved of will be a calamity for the wife in the future, either turning her away from her religion or treating her with bad treatment from which she will taste hardship. So delaying her marriage while waiting for a suitable suitor involves no sin; rather, it is the very essence of benefit, and the guardian does not sin by doing so.
As for the second point, which is the guardian looking for a suitable husband, this is from the Sunnah. 'Umar ibn al-Khattab (may Allah be pleased with him) offered his daughter Hafsah to 'Uthman ibn 'Affan (may Allah be pleased with him) to marry her, and he said:
That he had no desire for marriage, then he offered her to Abu Bakr, and he rejected her, saying: I do not want her. Then the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) proposed to her. When the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) proposed to her, Abu Bakr informed 'Umar that he had only rejected his offer because he had heard the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) mention her.
إنه لا رغبة له في النكاح، ثم عرضها على أبى بكر فردها فقال : لا أريدها، ثم إن النبي صلى الله عليه وسلم خطبها، فلما خطبها الني عليه الصلاة والسلام، أخبر أبو بكر عمر بأنه إنما رد عريضته لأنه كان قد سمع النبي صلى الله عليه وسلم يذكرهاSo a man offering his daughter to people of goodness is a good thing, and there is no blemish in it; rather, it is a merit for the person. Yes.