A man married to two wives who has children from both, and one of them breastfed another child; is this child a mahram to the daughters of that man, and what is the rule regarding the issue of breastfeeding?
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The questioner : A man says: I am married to two wives and have children from both. Then one of my wives breastfed a person. Is this person a mahram to the daughters of that man—the one who provided the milk, meaning the daughters of both wives? And what is the rule in the issue of breastfeeding, since the matter is confusing?
The Shaykh : We say that breastfeeding has an effect from the side of the man and from the side of the woman. In other words, if a man has two wives and one of them breastfeeds a child with the breastfeeding that establishes prohibition, which is five breastfeedings or more, then this child becomes a son to the wet nurse and a son to her husband. And the children of her husband from the other wife become his brothers. But brothers from what? From the father, because their father is one. As for the children of the woman who breastfed him, he is their brother from both father and mother. It is also possible that there are brothers from the mother. This woman breastfeeds a child while she is in the household of a man, meaning with her husband, then she marries another husband and breastfeeds a child while she is in the household of the second husband. The child she breastfed in the household of the second husband becomes a brother to her children from the first husband from the mother, not from the father? From the mother. He becomes a brother to her children from the first husband from the mother. So the ruling of breastfeeding is the same as the ruling of blood kinship, based on the saying of the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him):Sunan Ibn Majah 1937Sahih (Darussalam) Just as your brothers from the mother by blood are your brothers and mahrams to their sisters from their mother, so it is in breastfeeding.
Yes
But what is your opinion if the child does not accept the woman's breast, but she pours milk for him, or she milks her milk into a cup and breastfeeds this child from it five times, once in the morning, once in the evening, once at night, once after noon, the important thing being five times? Does he become a son to the woman who provided the milk? Yes, yes, he does. It is not a condition that he suckle from the breast; the important thing is that he suckle from this milk. Good.
And if two children were breastfed from a goat.
The students: Hehehe.
The Shaykh : Yes, we milk this goat and give this one and that one to drink. Do they become brothers through breastfeeding? The milk is one. How do we say it? If they were two lambs, they would become brothers, otherwise not.
The questioner : A request from some of the brothers says: Your Eminence, the Shaykh, why do you not have some of your lessons in the city of Hail and its surroundings? We hope that will happen soon. And is there any supplication for our Muslim brothers in Bosnia and Herzegovina, Palestine, and others in every place? May Allah reward you with the best reward.
The Shaykh : The supplication is offered for our Muslim brothers, the mujahideen, in Bosnia and Herzegovina, in Palestine, in Kashmir, and in every place where Muslims are oppressed. This is obligatory upon us. The least that is required of us for our brothers is supplication. That is, if we do not participate with our wealth and our bodies, then at the very least, we must supplicate.
As for delivering lessons in Hail, in Hail, praise be to Allah, there are students of knowledge who are sufficient and who possess goodness. And I advise our brothers and the youth from Hail and others to stick to the people of knowledge they have and to ask them to sit with them, even if it is twice or three times a week. And if Allah the Exalted makes it easy for us to visit Hail or elsewhere to meet some of the brothers and encourage them, that would be good. But in reality, my work is very busy, more than my time allows. And I know that if I come to the people of Hail, the people of other countries will say, "Come to us." If you please everyone, it is a problem, and if you anger some of them, it is also a problem. And I believe that, if Allah wills, they are satisfied with me in all circumstances and that they excuse me, praise be to Allah. Now, the tapes compensate to some extent for the presence of the man. The tapes are now widespread, and they are a blessing from Allah, Glorified and Exalted is He, upon us in this time. When, praise be to Allah, the awakening was strong among the youth, who love knowledge, love goodness, love preaching, and love calling to Allah the Exalted, the tapes became, praise be to Allah, widespread. A person can put on the tape while he is driving in his car and listen to it and benefit from it. We ask Allah for you and for us beneficial knowledge and righteous deeds, and that He unite the hearts upon His obedience and upon what is in it of good, and that He protect us and you from division and disagreement, and that He bestow upon us from His mercy. Indeed, He is the Bestower. And praise be to Allah, Lord of the worlds. And may Allah send prayers and blessings upon our Prophet Muhammad and upon his family and his companions and those who follow them with excellence until the Day of Judgment.
The questioner : We ask Allah to bless the time and life of our Shaykh, and to benefit us with him, and to let us enjoy his life in His obedience, and may Allah reward us from him with the best reward. And may Allah send prayers and blessings and peace upon His servant and His Messenger Muhammad.
The Shaykh : We say that breastfeeding has an effect from the side of the man and from the side of the woman. In other words, if a man has two wives and one of them breastfeeds a child with the breastfeeding that establishes prohibition, which is five breastfeedings or more, then this child becomes a son to the wet nurse and a son to her husband. And the children of her husband from the other wife become his brothers. But brothers from what? From the father, because their father is one. As for the children of the woman who breastfed him, he is their brother from both father and mother. It is also possible that there are brothers from the mother. This woman breastfeeds a child while she is in the household of a man, meaning with her husband, then she marries another husband and breastfeeds a child while she is in the household of the second husband. The child she breastfed in the household of the second husband becomes a brother to her children from the first husband from the mother, not from the father? From the mother. He becomes a brother to her children from the first husband from the mother. So the ruling of breastfeeding is the same as the ruling of blood kinship, based on the saying of the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him):
Breast-feeding makes unlawful (for marriages) the same things that blood tie make unlawful.
يحرم من الرضاع ما يحرم من النسبYes
But what is your opinion if the child does not accept the woman's breast, but she pours milk for him, or she milks her milk into a cup and breastfeeds this child from it five times, once in the morning, once in the evening, once at night, once after noon, the important thing being five times? Does he become a son to the woman who provided the milk? Yes, yes, he does. It is not a condition that he suckle from the breast; the important thing is that he suckle from this milk. Good.
And if two children were breastfed from a goat.
The students: Hehehe.
The Shaykh : Yes, we milk this goat and give this one and that one to drink. Do they become brothers through breastfeeding? The milk is one. How do we say it? If they were two lambs, they would become brothers, otherwise not.
The questioner : A request from some of the brothers says: Your Eminence, the Shaykh, why do you not have some of your lessons in the city of Hail and its surroundings? We hope that will happen soon. And is there any supplication for our Muslim brothers in Bosnia and Herzegovina, Palestine, and others in every place? May Allah reward you with the best reward.
The Shaykh : The supplication is offered for our Muslim brothers, the mujahideen, in Bosnia and Herzegovina, in Palestine, in Kashmir, and in every place where Muslims are oppressed. This is obligatory upon us. The least that is required of us for our brothers is supplication. That is, if we do not participate with our wealth and our bodies, then at the very least, we must supplicate.
As for delivering lessons in Hail, in Hail, praise be to Allah, there are students of knowledge who are sufficient and who possess goodness. And I advise our brothers and the youth from Hail and others to stick to the people of knowledge they have and to ask them to sit with them, even if it is twice or three times a week. And if Allah the Exalted makes it easy for us to visit Hail or elsewhere to meet some of the brothers and encourage them, that would be good. But in reality, my work is very busy, more than my time allows. And I know that if I come to the people of Hail, the people of other countries will say, "Come to us." If you please everyone, it is a problem, and if you anger some of them, it is also a problem. And I believe that, if Allah wills, they are satisfied with me in all circumstances and that they excuse me, praise be to Allah. Now, the tapes compensate to some extent for the presence of the man. The tapes are now widespread, and they are a blessing from Allah, Glorified and Exalted is He, upon us in this time. When, praise be to Allah, the awakening was strong among the youth, who love knowledge, love goodness, love preaching, and love calling to Allah the Exalted, the tapes became, praise be to Allah, widespread. A person can put on the tape while he is driving in his car and listen to it and benefit from it. We ask Allah for you and for us beneficial knowledge and righteous deeds, and that He unite the hearts upon His obedience and upon what is in it of good, and that He protect us and you from division and disagreement, and that He bestow upon us from His mercy. Indeed, He is the Bestower. And praise be to Allah, Lord of the worlds. And may Allah send prayers and blessings upon our Prophet Muhammad and upon his family and his companions and those who follow them with excellence until the Day of Judgment.
The questioner : We ask Allah to bless the time and life of our Shaykh, and to benefit us with him, and to let us enjoy his life in His obedience, and may Allah reward us from him with the best reward. And may Allah send prayers and blessings and peace upon His servant and His Messenger Muhammad.