I am a young man of twenty years, obedient to Allah (Glorified and Exalted is He) and successful in my university studies, but my problem, O honorable Shaykh, is that I feel
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The questioner : I am a young man of twenty years, obedient to Allah (Glorified and Exalted is He) and successful in my university studies, but my problem, O honorable Shaykh, is that I feel, at repeated times, a sexual urge that I cannot resist, as I lose concentration during study and revision and experience repeated distress. What do you advise us? May Allah reward you?
The Shaykh : We advise you with what the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) guided to in his saying:Mishkat al-Masabih 3080 So if you are able to marry, do so, so that you may obtain the benefits of marriage, among which is what the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) indicated in his saying: Sunan an-Nasa'i 2242Sahih (Darussalam) And if you are not able to do that, then you must fast, for fasting is worship of Allah (Mighty and Majestic) and it is a mitigator of the intensity of desire. For this reason, the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) said: If you are not able to fast, then be chaste and be patient and endure, as Allah the Exalted commanded in His saying: [An-Nur 24:33] And distract yourself from this matter until Allah makes for you a relief and an exit. Yes.
The questioner : We return to the remaining questions of the listener 'Umar Ahmad 'Awadh, a Sudanese resident in Kuwait, who says in his questions.
The Shaykh : We advise you with what the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) guided to in his saying:
Young man, those of you who can support a wife should marry, for it keeps you from looking at strange women and preserves you from immorality; but those who cannot should devote themselves to fasting, for it is a means of suppressing sexual desire.
يا معشر الشباب! من استطاع منكم الباءة فليتزوج، فإنه أغض للبصر وأحصن للفرج، ومن لم يستطع فعليه بالصوم فإنه له وِجاءfor it is more effective in lowering the gaze and guarding one's chastity
فإنه أغض للبصر وأحصن للفرجFor it is a restraint for him.
فإنه له وجاءBut let them who find not [the means for] marriage abstain [from sexual relations] until Allah enriches them from His bounty.
وَلْيَسْتَعْفِفِ الَّذِينَ لا يَجِدُونَ نِكَاحًا حَتَّى يُغْنِيَهُمُ اللَّهُ مِنْ فَضْلِهِThe questioner : We return to the remaining questions of the listener 'Umar Ahmad 'Awadh, a Sudanese resident in Kuwait, who says in his questions.