What advice do you give to one who refuses marriage to complete her studies?
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Question:
A young woman asks, saying: I am a young woman, twenty years old, and a young man has proposed to me for marriage, but I declined on the pretext of completing my university studies. What is your guidance to me in this matter?
Answer:
I advise the young man and the young woman to take the initiative in marriage. I have said this more than once, on various occasions, and in "Nur 'ala al-Darb." One should not decline on the pretext of studies, or acquiring a building, or constructing a building, or furnishing a building. One should take the initiative in marriage so that he may lower his gaze and guard his chastity, whether he is a man or a woman, whenever a righteous husband and a suitable righteous wife become available.
So one should take the initiative. If completing the studies becomes easy, praise be to Allah; otherwise, it is not obligatory. The requirement of studies is understanding and gaining knowledge of the religion, and knowing the religion of Islam. If he knows his religion, praise be to Allah. The aim is not to become an employee, or to become a great scholar. The aim is to learn his religion and gain knowledge of his religion. If he learns what suffices for knowing his religion, praise be to Allah, even if he then leaves it to seek earnings and take care of his family.
Likewise, if a righteous husband whom she desires becomes available for a woman, she should agree, even if she cuts off her university studies. For her to marry, guard her chastity, preserve her religion, lower her gaze, and stay away from the causes of fitnah (trial, discord or temptation) is better for her, in our belief. This is indicated by the saying of the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) in the authentic hadith:Mishkat al-Masabih 3080. As for the command, some scholars said: it is for the Sunnah (recommended practice) and emphasis, and others said: it is for obligation. As long as the man has desire and the woman has desire, it is for obligation. This is more apparent, and this is the most correct regarding commands: that they are for obligation. He said: Sahih al-Bukhari 1905. This command obliges taking the initiative and hastening to marriage with the ability to do so.
And I advise taking the initiative, even if it means borrowing, or taking a loan, or buying a need on credit and then selling it to get married. Marriage has a status, and it has great benefit and many advantages.
A young woman asks, saying: I am a young woman, twenty years old, and a young man has proposed to me for marriage, but I declined on the pretext of completing my university studies. What is your guidance to me in this matter?
Answer:
I advise the young man and the young woman to take the initiative in marriage. I have said this more than once, on various occasions, and in "Nur 'ala al-Darb." One should not decline on the pretext of studies, or acquiring a building, or constructing a building, or furnishing a building. One should take the initiative in marriage so that he may lower his gaze and guard his chastity, whether he is a man or a woman, whenever a righteous husband and a suitable righteous wife become available.
So one should take the initiative. If completing the studies becomes easy, praise be to Allah; otherwise, it is not obligatory. The requirement of studies is understanding and gaining knowledge of the religion, and knowing the religion of Islam. If he knows his religion, praise be to Allah. The aim is not to become an employee, or to become a great scholar. The aim is to learn his religion and gain knowledge of his religion. If he learns what suffices for knowing his religion, praise be to Allah, even if he then leaves it to seek earnings and take care of his family.
Likewise, if a righteous husband whom she desires becomes available for a woman, she should agree, even if she cuts off her university studies. For her to marry, guard her chastity, preserve her religion, lower her gaze, and stay away from the causes of fitnah (trial, discord or temptation) is better for her, in our belief. This is indicated by the saying of the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) in the authentic hadith:
Young man, those of you who can support a wife should marry
يا معشر الشباب، مَن استطاع منكم الباءة فليتزوجHe who can afford to marry should marry, because it will help him refrain from looking at other women, and save his private parts from committing illegal sexual relation; and he who cannot afford to marry is advised to fast, as fasting will diminish his sexual power.
فليتزوّج؛ فإنه أغضُّ للبصر، وأحصن للفرج، ومَن لم يستطع فعليه بالصوم؛ فإنه له وجاءAnd I advise taking the initiative, even if it means borrowing, or taking a loan, or buying a need on credit and then selling it to get married. Marriage has a status, and it has great benefit and many advantages.
Source
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